I have sex drive that astonishes many. This hasn’t been a problem until I met my man, who I am absolutely crazy abut, but his sex drive is lower than mine, leading me to feel very sexually frustrated at times. What can I do? Self-please doesn’t work for me.
This is an age old problem, and the interesting part for me is that more women are coming forward to have the higher sex drive… usually this is an issue men “cry” about.
There are five answers to this issue…
1. Cheat. Not Jane recommended, but its one of those things people do when they’re selfish.
2. Break up. Go back to your life before your astonishing sex drive was an issue, maybe he can be one of your fuck buddies.
3. Open up. You can transform the relationship and swing.
4. Compromise. If you’re head over heels for one another, try to up the sex sessions by a couple more a week. Be reasonable with your demands, and allow some time for his sore penis to mend.
5. Medicate. Is he on antidepressants, medication or anything else that could lower his sex drive? There are lotions (such as M Drive) that can help level androgen in his body that could up his sex drive. Working out also tends to help, it’ll help his testosterone rise… after sex it dips down.
Don’t forget that another factor could be that the issue isn’t the bedroom – usually every day normal relationship problems manifest worst in the bedroom. Maybe there is something he isn’t telling you, and he happens to be holding out on sex because his feelings are hurt somehow.
Also, he probably feels a bit like a piece of meat. Everyone wants to feel wanted, not used. Give him some blow jobs, take him to a movie… woo him like a guy would have to woo a woman. Spend time reconnecting (without your legs in the air) and he’ll come around quicker.
Oh, and don’t nag, pout, or complain… or try your best to not do those things… they don’t find us any more attractive when we’re pouting on the couch because they wont in on the sexing. Let him come to you on his own. SOMETIMES when we give it up so readily the “thrill of the chase” goes away and so does the interest.
Besides, sex is better when you BOTH want it.
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