Trying to find a non-vanilla relationship before your 18, or even 21, is difficult. All my serious long term relationships in college and high school were vanilla, a little kink and foreplay here and there – which always became awkward because my partners never wanted to try new things or explore their sexual desires. Since then I’ve learned that my sexual partners were selfish people who would take everything you give them, and give only enough back to your needs and wants to keep you around. Not surprisingly, you can find many people who have been in that same boat.

I started looking for others who shared my interest online. I stumbled upon FetLife; excellent community and event happenings, but not much in the ways of real time. I found CollarMe; lots of scammers with actual professional Doms mixed in. That’s where I found mymistress.

I’m still not sure what exactly pushed me over the edge to seek out a pro-Dom in RT (real time). It might have been all the built up tension of needing to get dominated. In most of my previous relationships I was always the dominant one. Girls are usually submissive, and maybe I was just tired of that. I really wanted to try the other side, some role-reversal, get an aggressive girl and see what it felt like to be able to just let go and have someone take care of you.

After a few e-mail exchanges, I had an appointment set.

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