My boyfriend loves the strap-on, and it gives me some great feelings of control. How do I approach him of my fantasy of him with a hot she-male (if they exist outside of porn) while he licks me?

Spareparts Joque Harness

Its cool that you brought up porn, because if you mix that with “hey, I had this dream that such and such happened, and it was arousing… I mean… if I had a real cock, that’s pretty much what we’re doing” … which could work in your situation.

But, there are people, possibly your boyfriend, who don’t follow female pegging to a she-male experience. They’ve fetishized the strap-on itself, what it is, and who exactly is wearing it.

Find out why he enjoys being pegged, instead of just you holding a prostate specific toy and prodding his prostate with it. This part of the conversation can easily lead into your fantasy since you’re being so honest with each other. It is a good idea to have this conversation before you bring up checking out your local gay bar for a hot threesome with a she-male because it is a good idea to find out where he is at first.

He could just enjoy that it is you with the power and the feeling of the pegging… but… he could also be hiding that he is into she-males and you’re doing an ok job at the fantasy.

Thing is, since you’ve started pegging him, you’ve had your own fantasies so it isn’t just about him… so going back to what I said in the beginning… ease it to him using porn/dream that you stumbled upon/had while sleeping.  It takes the edge off being in the spot light. Its not a far leap from one idea to this one, and he should be able to follow it. I don’t see any freak outs happening if you strike at the right opportunity.

You know him better than I do, you’ll know when you have your moment… just don’t be chicken, and take it! Talking about fantasies should be a fun part of any relationship and can bring couples closer if done respectfully.

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I’m trying to have safe Oral (the boyfriend has herpes, I dont) but no one seems to be talking about tips for sucking a guy off with a condom. Got any advice? Should I also avoid any mouth action on the balls to be safe or can I go there? He has no sores.

Your sex lives aren’t over.

Avoid skin to skin contact surrounding times of an outbreak and during outbreaks because herpes is contagious. It can be passed during any outbreak including cold sores or genital sores. It can also be passed during viral shedding.

During an outbreak: Avoid any type of oral, I’m finding it “can be passed from genital to mouth” but it isn’t common.  Wait till it passes, consider doubling up on meds (preventative) and avoid skin to skin contact.

As for BJ tips with a condom…

Try using non-lubricated or flavored condoms.

Add some lube, just a couple drops, inside the condom before he/you rolls it down. It’ll create a cushion of feeling between him and the condom.

Make sure your hands are lubricated (you can use any of the flavored lubes as long as they aren’t oil based) and your mouth doesn’t go dry to help the stroking motion.

After that, give him the BJ of his life. If he likes them loud and sloppy… then go at it. He likes them slow and sensual… then do that. Give him eye contact, if he likes it. Oral and sex feel totally different from each other, and guys don’t feel as much through a condom, but one thing that makes both acts enjoyable is YOUR want to do them.

Your enthusiasm. Don’t fake it and be porn-y… but rev yourself up, let him know how much you really want him. THAT is a turn on, THAT will get him off, even if his dick isn’t as sensitive because of the condom.

There’s a mind over matter thing he’ll have to get over, condoms aren’t the sexiest thing in the world… but they’re worth the safety (and the blow job)!

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My wife and I have been poly as long as we’ve been together. She wants us to go mono but I cant. How can I explain in a way she will understand I don’t know how to change this part of me?

You’ll have to tell her, just like that. You love her dearly, but being poly is a part of you she loved in the beginning and if she wants to be with you still, she’ll have to accept.  Just like all the things that make her, her, that you accept with the package.

There is a lot of talk around poly relationships and that they are just a phase, that they don’t work long term.

This is true for the majority of people.  There is a reason why Poly and Swinging is a sub-culture and not commonplace. Most don’t have the heart or skills to make it work long term.  Jealousy gets in the way and the “shiny” effect that new relationships have on a previous or primary one doesn’t help subdue it.

But there are other who make Poly work wonderfully.

For those who are truly Poly, life is just as hard filling the gaps of lost lovers, because the hardest thing to do is let someone go who isn’t fit for the lifestyle… despite how hard they loved it and tried it at one point in their life.  You’ll meet more like her, or, you’ll meet her in the middle somehow.

Talk to her about it, find out why she wants to go Mono.  Does she want to settle down, is it time for kids and she doesn’t think she can being Poly? Good ol’ religious guilt eating at her? After a few years of Mono, I’ve heard people reminisce and miss being Poly as well.  Maybe this is a phase you can pass through together.

Poly isn’t just about sex, sex is the easy part of it all. The relationships, making time, etc… it is hard work.

As you know, communication is key to make any relationship work, especially a Poly relationship. Have a dialogue with her, get to the root of the issue. There isn’t an off switch she just hit suddenly… there must be a reason why.  Find it, and work through it. If in the end you have to let one another go, don’t let it get ugly.  What you had was beautiful, it was just time to let her go so she can fulfill her other hopes and dreams in life.  Be happy that you both found each other when you did so you can open each other  up to different life experiences.

No matter which way it goes, good luck. I know these conversations aren’t easy to have.

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Hey I got a question , When i have sex i cum with in a minute . but i can stay hard after .. Is this a turn off for girls . Am i better off asking for a blow job and telling her to make me cum so i can last longer durning sex ? also is there something wrong with me or is it normal to cum fast?

I’m going to make a crack at bad parenting for a second, or ya know what? This could also be because you haven’t asked any guy friends. It was covered in There’s Something About Mary. But never mind that.

Ever hear the expression “Never go out with a loaded gun”?

No?

It mean’s masturbate before you go out to meet someone.

If it makes you feel better to have her not know about the first hurdle you have to jump so you can last longer in bed, then rub one out before you get to her. Everyone’s body is different, and you’re certainly not the only guy out there who after he gets that first pop out of the way, he can last for days.  You’re normal, it is a mind over matter issue.

You can train your body not to do it, but, I always thought the idea of more oral sex, or a guy’s ability to get off at least twice in a session was cool. “Normally” or I should say “Socially” you guys are stigmatized to only getting one orgasm.

What the hell is that?

Sex should be like a road trip, not a dash in the rain.

I always say “the more the merrier”, and if your partner doesn’t see it that way, enlighten her.  You guys derive such pleasure from getting your partner’s off, why not give into it once in a while and get spoiled too?  Work it INTO your sex “routine” instead of making it a big deal.

When you’re with someone new, tell her it has been a while (because you’re picky of course) and you didn’t want to assume you were having sex that night so the first one will come quick, but after that she better not have work in the morning.  You come off as a non presumptuous honest guy, we like that.

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How do I tell my girl, I am Bi?

If I was a guy (and I assume you are, because it is easier for a woman to say “hey I’m bi” to their boyfriend and have the relationship be okay) I would start with anal play with my girlfriend first.

After or If she is comfortable with HER doing it…

It isn’t a far jump to come out to her gently, and say that since you started being intimate and having her penetrate you, you’ve had thoughts of threesomes but with another guy for her and you because toys are toys.

She can either love the idea and be happy about having two men to experience without you being jealous. Or, she could feel tricked and replaced because you’re “gay” and you’re going to break up with her because you “don’t like women”.

Depending on her thoughts about the GLBT, and how she was raised, or how she feels about being something other than straight… it could go better than you think. Gender preferences are quite fluid as time is passing and for some people to “come out” it isn’t a surprise to their loved ones.

Start slow, and use language that says “both” and not just “gay”.  Tell her you love her (if you mean it of course) and her body, and women, and pussy, and boobs etc… and since she has been so great and understanding, and etc that you want to tell her a secret. That since you trust her, and want to be with her (that is, if you want to stay with her) that you want to experiment with her.  If you make it about the relationship and the both of you, its difficult for her to bite back at you and say “you don’t love me, you’re gay, thanks for using me” and those other hurtful things that could be said.

You can also start by asking her if she has had thoughts about other women, and say that women are different from men down to their plumbing (genitals). That if she liked women, you couldn’t do that for her.  You don’t have a vagina or boobs, and therefore can’t compare to what sort of sex she could have with a woman.  A guy being bi, is the same thing.  She can mimic and you can buy toys, but it just isn’t the same.

You know your girlfriend better than I do, and I’d like you to be true to yourself.  People who hide their sexual preferences throughout their lifetime end up unhappy.  It happens for people who like BDSM and don’t know how to express it, it happens in the GLBT, it happens to foot fetishists, so know with what you’re feeling, you aren’t alone.

It is like saying “I would have rather loved, than never at all”.  You should be accepted for who you are, and be able to be yourself. Sometimes it hurts a few people momentarily when they get “the news” but your happiness should be what counts in the end…hopefully she’ll come around to understanding that.  If the table was turned, she would hope the same of you for her.

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Queening is an exaggerated version of face sitting. Face sitting, is exactly how it sounds.  Oral sex as someone “sits on your face”.  Queening is usually used as a BDSM term.  It is a mix of face sitting + ass worshiping + a dominant woman making you service/lick/adore/get smothered in her vagina/ass.

There are pieces of furniture specifically built for queening, more often they are simply called thrones or smother boxes.  Smothering is taking Queening a step further, but they often hold hands as sexual practices.

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So… A recently acquired friend of mine was telling me about this guy he knows (they’re in their 20′s for the record).  His friend, although college educated, didn’t quite get the mechanics of how the body breaks down the foods we eat and they had a conversation that went a little something like this:

Guy: Yo bro, I’m going to drink so much milk today, this girl better watch out later! She’s going to need goggles!!

Friend: Wait, what? Do you really think when you drink milk, it turns directly into cum?

Guy: uh…

Friend: Just because they’re both whiteish, doesn’t mean your cum is milk… HAHAHAHAHAHA

Guy: :(

*****

If I was there, I would have told the guy if he wanted a bigger “pop shot”… to try this instead

1. Yes, drink more fluids, but that just helps your body anyway.

2. You want to eat foods that promote a healthy prostate, which creates the seminal fluid.  Celery, cinnamon, proteins, green veges, pumpkin to name a few.

3. There are even vitamins that people are taking to help create that Peter North, Glazed Doughnut, larger amount of come… shot.  Many xxx shops are carrying them.  I was skeptical, but a Stunt Cock of mine said if you take them over time (even as short as a week) you’ll see a difference.

The next time you want to laugh at a friend, try and hold it in instead, and direct them here.  I’ll save your friend some face, and you’ll both learn something!

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To say that I squirt when I cum is an understatement. I gush. Half the time it’s odorless, but the other half of the time the smell is really unpleasant. Do you know of anything that may cause that?

You’re right… every documentary, blog, informational site, peer review, dvd, workshop etc… in the last X years says “squirt isn’t pee and it doesn’t smell”.  But ya know what? Sometimes it does.  Here are a few reasons why it might… or how it could all be just in your head.

Don’t worry your pretty uh, faces off, just read this little rational list of what could be up.

1.  ”Squirt” gathers in the bladder.  What is happening is you’re G-Spot (aka the urethral sponge) is being stimulated and it is pushing fluid into the bladder.  When you squirt, it comes out of the urethra, not the vaginal opening.

If you didn’t pee before sex/masturbation/stimulation… there could be some urine mixed in… which could cause a smell.  It could be more potent if you don’t drink a lot of fluids.  The simple fixes to this are:

A: Drink more water.

B: Pee before sexual activity.

2.  What did you eat that day? Are you one of those “I ate Italian food today, so I’m going to sweat garlic for the next few hours” kind of people?  It might not be the fem ejaculate you’re smelling… it could be your sweat in the sheets too.

Don’t be a Diet Nazi, and take out stock in pineapples, just be mindful.

3. Speaking of sheets… not to go here… but if you’re smelling the bed… maybe it is time to clean the sheets, flip the mattress, etc.  Might not be you, it might just be the sheets.

Perfect excuse to fuck somewhere else!

4. When some people orgasm, they lose some muscle control because they’re lost in the moment.  You’ve seen your gal “throw up gang signs”, you’ve seen your guy make “O faces”. When women let go and squirt, it isn’t an impossible task to also fart while bearing down. Gas/air happens… it is part of life.  Sometimes they stink, sometimes not.

Laugh it off.

Also, I’m not a doctor nor am I telling you that you’re dirty so clean yo’ sheets.  Be mindful of the suggestions I’ve made, and see a doctor if you’re worried.

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My girlfriend has started to get headache while she is about to cum. Any suggestions? No, she doesn’t get one before hand. It’s when her heart rate goes up and she gets excited.

This happens for a few reasons, let’s go through the basics.

1. Are you on vacation, is the elevation of where you are different from where you usually are?

2. Is she tired? This causes headaches.

3. Is she hungry? Low blood sugar could cause headaches.

4. Is she stressed out or nervous about something you’re doing together or life in general?

5 Allergies, Sinus?

6… Lastly, 

Is there a history of blood pressure issues in her family? This is a serious cause which can be fixed sometimes as easily as taking an Aspirin a day or monitoring food intake. In other cases their doctor will prescribe some medication (which may make her drowsy or hyper depending on what she gets… which adds a different “problem” dynamic to life/sex).

If this is a new issue, try looking at ideas 1-4.

If the headaches continue and you notice (gym, walking long distances, physical activity, sex, sleep) other heart related issues when being active (shortness of breath, heart pounding doing easy tasks or light exertion, persistent headaches) then see a doctor.

Key words from your question if 1-4 isn’t fixing the headaches, then I suggest seeing a doctor asap and monitoring heart rate/blood pressure.

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So.. I’m just slightly too small for a magnum, it feels like. What should I get?

There are several sizes of condoms, but some words are hidden in the naming of the product from the companies to help differentiate their brand from others.

Fitted = smaller than regular. I’ve been told that Kimono brand condoms run small too.

Most condoms are “regular” if they don’t have any special wording on them pertaining to size (Magnum, Max, Fitted…). Usually the fun condoms are “regular” fit or “average” fit. This would be all the fire Ice, Studded, Ribbed, Twisteds… Extended Pleasure, Warming. Most Polyurethane, and I believe all Lamb Skin condoms are also regular fit unless it says differently on the box.

Large. Trojan has a “large” condom that is smaller than their Magnums. These don’t come with any special add-ons that I’ve seen yet. These are either really hard to find, or they discontinued them in most places. I’ve noticed the Ecstasy condoms are also a little larger than usual, probably because of the new fit design. Anything with that bulb up front (like the Twisted pleasure) will give you a little more room.

Magnums are larger than large in the Trojan brand condoms. Companies have given magnums the Ecstasy lube and warming lubes too… so be careful what pack you pick up.

And there are also XL Magnums and Durex XXL.

READ CAREFULLY! Be proud that you’re practicing safe sex and stand in that condom isle an extra 5 minutes to read the packaging carefully. That makes 5 sizes of condoms and an array of lubes and textures to sort through.

Extended Pleasure or Endurance has a numbing agent to help him last longer.

Her Pleasure has a stimulant on it – some tingle, others make her tighter (not always pleasant).

Warming – warms.

Fire and or Ice has dual lubricants on it – one side cools the other warms.

Studded & Ribbed & Twisted have texture on the outside of the condom for your partner to feel.

Ecstacy brand uses a silicone lubricant to make them feel ultra smooth, instead of the usual glycerine/water based lubricant. Silicone lube lasts for a super long time, you’re going to need soap and water to wash it off fully.

Thin or Bare mean a very thin condom – their opposite would be the regular condoms.  There used to be a clearly labeled “ultra” condom which was believed to be thicker than usual, but wording has changed since I’ve seen them on the shelves.

Some people who believe they are allergic to latex because of condoms – could be having a reaction to the lube ON the condom, not the condom itself.  Try non lubricated condoms and your own lube before you go through the expense of buying special non-latex condoms.

Non Latex Condoms include: Lambs Skin (Literally. They protect against pregnancy, but not STIs). Polyisoprene,  and Polyurethane (aka Supra, and also seen in Female Condom form) are popular for Trojan and Durex respectively.

Always pick a condom that stays on and doesn’t slide around, you don’t want that. If your condom is put on wrong, is too tight, or goes dry they will break. Stay well lubricated. A tip I give my clients is to put a drop or two (no more than that) of lube IN the condom before you roll it down… it’ll feel like a whole new world in there for ya.

If you have any more questions about condoms and sizes, don’t hesitate to ask (click the “Dear Jane”!)

PS Trojan, if you’re reading this, I HATE THE NEW BOXES. They’re bigger which screws up my entire display that hasn’t changed in over 10 years and everything is the same fucking color. People are embarrassed and confused enough by which condom to pick and now 4 of your boxes are gold/yellow? You’re all morons for changing the color coding of the boxes.

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Vibrators

• Evolved Serenity by padme amidala
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• Papaya Candy Stick by Teagan Shepard
• Sqweel by Little Miss Naughtygirl
• Vibratex Mystic Wands Comparison by Dangerous Lilly
• Vibe Therapy Serenity by DIY Orgasms
• Silicone Starlight by Teagan Shepard
• Royal Inked by Mistress Kay
• Fukuoku 9000 by Kisses and Kinks
• Fukuoku 9000 by Naughty Snow White
• Zen Calm by Sammi
• Touche Harlequin by Teagan Shepard
• I Rub My Devil Duckie by DIY Orgasms

Dildos

• Golden Curved Love Wand by Lucid Obsession
• SinFive Burgono by Mistress Kay
• Glow Stick by Nymphomaniac Ness
• Glass Wand by Little Miss Naughtygirl
• Icicles No. 2 by Teagan Shepard
• Little Su by Bzzingbee
• Wet for Her Two by True Pleasures
• David the Werewolf by Bzzingbee
• Captain by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
• Tantus Adam O2 by Nymphomaniac Ness
• Midnight Twist by Little Miss Naughtygirl
• Crackers the Cockatrice Dildo by True Pleasures
• Tantus Realdoe by Amber
• Icicles No. 22 by Toys in Love
• Don Wands Red Sweetheart by Beanfiddler

Anal Toys

• Flexi Risque by Nymphomaniac Ness
• Nexus Titus by DIY Orgasms

Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.

• Pjur MySpray by Lucid Obsession
• Lust Cosmetics Extra Virgin Massage Oil by Teagan Shepard
• Lust Cosmetics Luscious Body Lotion by Teagan Shepard
• Intimate Organics Hydra by Arabella
• Good Clean Love Almost Naked by Nymphomaniac Ness
• On 4 Her by buzzvibe

BDSM/Fetish

• Bondage Boutique Deluxe Leather Flogger by Midnight Boudoir
• Divinity Collar by Mistress Kay
• Tera Patrick’s Play Kit by Kari Rose
• Hand Slapper by TitsMcScandal
• La Petite Lecon Ruler Paddle by Nymphomaniac Ness
• Nipple Pump Kit by Midnight Boudoir

Adult Books & Games

• The Nice Girl’s Guide to Talking Dirty by Lucid Obsession
• Love Coupons by Mistress Kay
• The New Art of Erotic Massage by Lucid Obsession

Adult DVDs & Porn

• Upload by Pixel
• Good Dyke Porn: Lily Cade & Tina Horn by J.D. Bauchery
• Through Her Eyes 2 by Ginger Leigh
• Nasty Hairdressers by J.D. Bauchery
• Danish Pastry by Ginger Leigh
• Summer Studs by J.D. Bauchery

Sex Furniture

• Liberator Pulse by Red Vinyl Kitty
• Liberator Fascinator Throe by CLP

Miscellaneous

• Silicone Pop Top Wand Attachment by Mistress Kay
• Swipes Lovin’ Wipes (Cucumber) by True Pleasures
• Romance Pleasure Kit by Lucid Obsession
• Double Panel Compression Shirt by LucyLemonade
• Clone A Willy by DIY Orgasms
• Manbound Ankle Mate by Red Vinyl Kitty

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Vibrators

• Sweet Obsession Euphoric by Mistress Kay
• 4 Play by Ladytoybox
• LELO Alia by LadyToyBox
• Glow in the Dark Mini by Mistress Kay
• Divine Inspiration by Cella
• Horn on the Cob by Joanna Cake
• Vibe Therapy Dive by Nymphomaniac Ness
• Dotted Delight by Bitchin’ Babe
• Twilight by Rock That Mommy
• Fun Factory Angelo by Unrepentant Fatty
• Fun Factory Angelo by Bzzingbee
• Berman Venus G by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
• Berman Venus G by Sammi
• LELO Siri by LadyToyBox
• LELO Siri by buzzvibe
• iRide by LadyToyBox
• JeJoue MiMi by Joan Price
• bSwish bCurious by LadyToyBox
• Fun Factory Astrovibes Aries by Kisses and Kinks
• Tracey Cox Supersex Bullet by DIY Orgasms
• Ann Summers Promises by DIY Orgasms
• Fun Factory Patchy Paul G4 by Toys in Love
• Compact Discretion by Teagan Shepard
• Pirates Pendant by Teagan Shepard

Dildos

• Inked by Bob
• Laid D.1 by Nymphomaniac Ness
• Rippler by True Pleasures
• Icicles No. 24 by Nymphomaniac Ness
• Tantus Alumina Revolve by Beanfiddler

Anal Toys

• Njoy Pfun by Amber

Sleeves, Cock Rings, & etc.

• Babeland Sonic Ring Kit by LadyToyBox
• Shakers Vol 4 by DIY Orgasms

Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.

• Ann Summers “Lust” Massage Spray by Kari Rose
• Sliquid Lube Cube Sampler by Kate
• Wet Synergy +Cool Tingle by CLP
• Kama Sutra Massage Therapy Kit by Cella
• Shunga Arousal Gel by Sammi
• Maximus by Bzzingbee

BDSM/Fetish

• Bondage Boutique Leather Ball Gag by DIY Orgasms
• Dungeon Delights Metal Wrist Shackles by Mistress Kay
• Love Swing by DIY Orgasms

Adult Books & Games

• Nookii by Undressed Reviews
• Love Me Like You Hate Me by Nymphomaniac Ness
• Dr. Sadie Allison’s Toygasms! by Teagan Shepard

Adult DVDs & Porn

• Just Tease by Ginger Leigh
• Behind The Red Door – Scene 4 by J.D. Bauchery
• Lust Lovers 3 by Ginger Leigh
• The Model by J.D. Bauchery
• Madison Young’s Art House Sluts by Ginger Leigh

Lingerie

• Les Petites Culottes Panties by True Pleasures
• Burlesca Sweet Streak Ruffle Corset and Skirt Set by Joanna Cake

Miscellaneous

• LELO Luna by Ladytoybox
• Pineapple Express Pills by True Pleasures
• Condoms for a Cause by Kate
• Condoms for a Cause by Kisses and Kinks
• Ben-Wa Balls by Soshanna
• Doc Johnson Pussy Pump by Midnight Boudoir
• Ophoria K-Balls Smooth by Mistress Kay
• Spareparts Pete Packer Underwear Brief by Mistress Kay

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I didn’t know what to expect when I clicked the link, but when this came up I couldn’t help but to sit back in my seat.  I’ve been thinking about this for years now! “Man, if I could come up with a way to make money off of pussy juice I’d be fucking rich… I have so much of it right now… how do I tap this well before it runs dry in old age?”

Well, these bastards STOLE MY IDEA… sorta.

Pussy is a 100% natural drink. No nasty chemicals and nothing manufactured. It is made for people looking for a natural alternative. The name Pussy shocks and demands attention — that’s the point. Inhibition is a recipe for mediocrity. This is a premium energy drink named with confidence.

Personality: Pussy is spontaneous, entertaining, optimistic and fun. It’s a starting point. A moment when something happens and when things begin -– Pussy starts conversations. It believes in having a good time as often as possible.

Values: Pussy is the first truly premium energy drink. We have sourced the best ingredients to create a great taste and a natural lift. We believe in challenging the consensus –- and moving things forward. Pussy is about natural energy, it’s irreverent, sophisticated and a pleasure to drink. Pussy is NOT about being serious, chemical energy, having a corporate attitude or being predictable.

Pussy is unique. It is made with a blend of fresh white grape juice from Southern Italy, pressed Mexican limes and lightly carbonated water. These are then mixed with Grenadilla and Lychee flavours, infused with six selected botanical herbs: Milk Thistle, Guarana, Siberian Ginseng, Sarsaparilla, Schizandra, and Gingko Biloba.

 

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I have become friends with a shemale on a social media site I want to avoid sayin’ something stupid HELP Please.

Girls are taught how to be girls; Later in life some of us learn how to become women.

There are two important things you need to remember.

1. We’re all humans before we are woman, man, female, male or born in the wrong body, and in transition.

2. The cat needs to be let out of the bag to some extent, at least once, so you can get to know her preferences and so she knows she can be open with you.

Treat people respectfully, and you wont have to worry about offending someone easily no matter who they are.  In this case, you go with what is Gender Apparent.  Gender Apparent means, if they are talking like a specific gender, dressing like a specific gender and acting like a specific gender… they are that gender.  Since you said you’ve met a shemale, use female pronouns and language.

ex) “Your hair is pretty today.” Not, “Dude, your hair looks more feminine today”.

You can avoid most blunders by sticking with common sense and keeping “Gender Apparent” in mind.

Unless, which brings me to point 2, if you’re wrong about her from the start.

You can tread lightly and ask in a sincere curious manner what they prefer. Most social sites don’t allow very specific click boxes and they could have just chosen “shemale” for lack of better words to describe themselves.

Ask about who they are, and their journey, and how they identify best so you can use better vernacular.  Just explain they are “your first” and you want to be friends with them because you feel they are awesome for rockin’ out how they truly feel. That you do not want to offend them and you’d like to know how to be a better friend.

I can’t tell you how to not offend your new friend, because I could be wrong too.  Therefore you can have one small chat about how they feel so you basically never have to do it again (if they don’t offer the info freely on an ongoing basis).

Ex) I’ve met GLBTQ (Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Trans, Queer, Questioning–etc) people who prefer gender neutral pronouns (scroll down for the GNP chart). They would get highly offended if you would forget that THEY wanted you to use GNP for them; yet it wasn’t a part of my every day. But I did it, because, well, just because.  It became something I remembered to do, as if I was cooking for a friend allergic to onions… I’d omit onions from the recipe or make something different.

I’d be annoyed if I didn’t like to be called something and people kept saying it. There are MANY words people have given, invented, and identify better with to “label” themselves… and they are just words… but some have grown quite attached to them.

How we identify is a large part of how we go about our day – most of us – without even thinking about it.  If you’re male, you use the men’s room, you put on men’s clothing, it is ok for you to walk around topless and people don’t care if you don’t shave your legs. If you’re in transition, you have to consciously make these decisions until it becomes routine and you’re comfortable with doing them in being more “yourself”.

Having friends and people around you who accept you, as you, is important to us all. We all inherently want to be liked for who we are despite how we- our beliefs, attitude, sexual preferences, political views, attire- may differ from someone else’s let alone how society dictates it “should” be.

But… we’re all different, we’re all rebels… just like everyone else. We’re “only human” in the end.

Good luck with your new friendship, learn from each other, and just be yourself.  Like I said, in the end, we all just want to be accepted for being ourselves so the less emphasis you put on differences, the more they wont matter. Just… be friends.

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How Heterosexual Are You? Take the Test!

Imagining heterosexist questions directed at straights illustrates the insanity done to gays and lesbians.

1. What do you think caused your heterosexuality?

2. When and how did you first decide you were a heterosexual?

3. Is it possible your heterosexuality is just a phase you may grow out of?

4. Is it possible your heterosexuality stems from a neurotic fear of others of the same sex?

5. Isn’t it possible that all you need is a good gay lover?

6. Heterosexuals have histories of failures in gay relationships. Do you think you may have turned to  heterosexuality out of fear of rejection?

7. If you’ve never slept with a person of the same sex, how do you know you wouldn’t prefer that?

8. If heterosexuality is normal, why are a disproportionate number of mental patients heterosexual?

9. To whom have you disclosed your heterosexual tendencies? How did they react?

10. Your heterosexuality doesn’t offend me as long as you don’t try to force it on me. Why do you people feel compelled to seduce others into your sexual orientation?

11. If you choose to nurture children, would you want them to be heterosexual, knowing the problems they would face?

12. The great majority of child molesters are heterosexuals. Do you really consider it safe to expose your children to heterosexual teachers?

13. Why do you insist on being so obvious, and making a public spectacle of your heterosexuality? Can’t you just be what you are and keep it quiet?

14. How can you ever hope to become a whole person if you limit yourself to a compulsive, exclusive heterosexual object choice and remain unwilling to explore and develop your normal, natural, healthy, God-given homosexual potential?

15. Heterosexuals are noted for assigning themselves and each other to narrowly restricted, stereotyped sex-roles. Why do you cling to such unhealthy role-playing?

16. Why do heterosexuals place so much emphasis on sex?

17. With all the societal support marriage receives, the divorce rate is spiraling. Why are there so few stable relationships among heterosexuals?

18. How could the human race survive if everyone were heterosexual, considering the menace of overpopulation?

19. There seem to be very few happy heterosexuals. Techniques have been developed with which you might be able to change if you really want to. Have you considered aversion therapy?

20. Do heterosexuals hate and/or distrust others of their own sex? Is that what makes them heterosexual?

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