Sexpert Jane Blow » Puddles

It’s a Trap!

Puddles — Tue, 08 Feb 2011 17:00:51 +0000

If you spend as much time as I do trolling the internet for hook-ups, going to dubstep partys high as a kite looking to score with something juicy or just exploring your own sexuality – whether its someone sticking something inside you – or doing it yourself, you can come across some crazy-ness.

Lately my favorite thing to is guess whether that girl is indeed a girl. I like to think I have really good gender-dar from having many transgender friends and my own sterotypes of how people act…but I’ve been obsessed with TRAPS.

A “trap” can be someone, almost always trans, who dresses and acts like the opposite sex but they don’t have the matching pieces. As you have learned from my previous post, this gender identity thing is becoming more and more how one sees them-self. I feel like I’ve been going out of my way to play this game lately, to talk up a pretty little thing and get a little grope-y with my hand….and to be honest when I’m wrong about it I get disappointed. Let’s play a game. Look at the pictures below.

Two of these are traps! Can you guess which ones? Good luck!

<3 puddles

Sexlopedia: Transgender Terminology!

Puddles — Tue, 01 Feb 2011 16:00:41 +0000

Recently I’ve come across a lot of hate and misunderstanding against trans peoples. This wouldn’t really bother me but it came from a very unexpected place – my friends and family that are Gay or Lesbian. A few trans friends of mine go to the gay-friendly clinic in Manhattan, and the stories they come back with are just bad. Sometimes they are ignored for hours, or referred to as “it”. Not that I think it would be any different in a heterosexual/hospital clinic, but you would think gays would be more understanding of people who choose an alternative lifestyle.

Anyway, I want to take this opportunity and use my voice with JB to define some transgendered terms. I’m going to borrow some from pages I found from SoCal Univeristy’s LGBTCenter – they had the simplest definitions I could find – I’ve paraphrased a good deal of it but here goes:

Biological sex: Used to identify genetic, biological, or physical characteristics of a person. Penis, vagina, or both (intersex). Biological sex and Gender are two different things.

Gender: Social and psychological label that define a person based on feminine or masculine characteristics. Examples: “That guy is a man’s man!” “She wears the pants in that family!” or “He is really in touch with his feminine side.”

Gender Identity: A term used to define how one sees their own gender…this usually always matches with Biological sex…so if you have a penis you see yourself as a guy, but is not always the case. Gender identity is one’s self of sense and the image you present of yourself to the world.

Gender Role: How a person of a certain biological sex is expected to act. Boys play with GI Joe, girls play with dolls. Men provide the financial security, and women tend to the household. These traditional gender roles have been changing very quickly over the past decade, with more and more women becoming the “breadwinners” and men taking up more household roles traditionally done by women. Typically society defines what is for men and what is for women, 50 years ago a man would have been lynched for wearing makeup…now Emo boys and celebrities use eye liner before they leave the house.

Transgender or Trans: A term used to describe anyone who does not fit the “normal” accepted gender role or goes against their bio-sex. These terms are used as sort of an umbrella, catching everything from cross-dressers, transvestite, to transsexual.

Transsexual: Someone who has felt for a long time that their assigned biological sex is wrong.

Cross-dresser: A person who on occasion wears clothing traditonally associated with the opposite biological sex or gender role. A girl wearing a suit, or a boy wearing a skirt. Sometimes it is done for erotic gratification. Most cross-dressers identify as heterosexual, whatever they identify as their gender role or identity. So you can have a very masculine, muscle bound fellow in a pink tu-tu who sleeps with women, or a twiggy, flat chested girl that dresses like a paperboy and sleeps with guys. I only give those example because they make me chuckle. :)

Phew! Well that was a lot of stuff. I think a lot of people are slowly coming around that biological sex does not define your role in society anymore. And that, in my opinion, is a very good thing. Next time I define some more stuff I’ll get into hormone therapy pre/post ops, FTM, MTF, and all that stuff. I didn’t include here because really I don’t know enough about those yet.

Until next time

<3 puddles

Puddles: In Need of a RT Dom

Puddles — Fri, 20 Aug 2010 16:11:58 +0000

Trying to find a non-vanilla relationship before your 18, or even 21, is difficult. All my serious long term relationships in college and high school were vanilla, a little kink and foreplay here and there – which always became awkward because my partners never wanted to try new things or explore their sexual desires. Since then I’ve learned that my sexual partners were selfish people who would take everything you give them, and give only enough back to your needs and wants to keep you around. Not surprisingly, you can find many people who have been in that same boat.

I started looking for others who shared my interest online. I stumbled upon FetLife; excellent community and event happenings, but not much in the ways of real time. I found CollarMe; lots of scammers with actual professional Doms mixed in. That’s where I found mymistress.

I’m still not sure what exactly pushed me over the edge to seek out a pro-Dom in RT (real time). It might have been all the built up tension of needing to get dominated. In most of my previous relationships I was always the dominant one. Girls are usually submissive, and maybe I was just tired of that. I really wanted to try the other side, some role-reversal, get an aggressive girl and see what it felt like to be able to just let go and have someone take care of you.

After a few e-mail exchanges, I had an appointment set.

You’d never know the dungeon was there, I must have walked past it dozens of times. Now anytime I pass a non-descript door I always glance at it, looking for signs or hidden markers that something crazy is going on in there. I was pretty nervous, still couldn’t believe I was really doing this. I met my Mistress, who was even hotter and cuter in person then her pictures. We went into one of the rooms, I paid the tribute and we discussed how the fantasy would play out. We set a safe word and began the session.

She started by having me undress, and my first mistake was not neatly folding my clothes. That was a smack. I also hesitated in addressing her properly as Mistress. That was another smack. Mistress forced me into a red thong and a matching teddy, my first forcedfem experience. There was a rotating- rectangular box-thingy she tied me to, and went to work on making my ass and back red like a cherry. I had mentioned I wanted to try some humiliation, so when Mistress was done with abusing my body, she had placed a large chain around my neck and with my hands restrained behind my back, she walked me into the room where the other mistresses’ hung out. Some of them took turns spanking my ass.

She led me back into our session room and made me worship her body a bit, by starting to kiss her feet and work up to her knee. Mistress started to twist and pinch my nipples, something I didn’t know how much I enjoyed. The rest of it is a blur but it all ended with Mistress making me masturbate in front of her, and coming to a climax. I was exhilarated and exhausted and my mind was spinning.

I knew I would be coming back to see her again.

Puddles, An Introduction.

Puddles — Mon, 26 Jul 2010 13:42:37 +0000

Hi there! My name is Puddles and I am a new contributor to JB.

I guess I’m here because I have been a pervert for as long as I can remember. I would always feel funny in a good way playing doctor, cops & robbers, or just being naked. I remember always taking a liking to whenever Lady Baroness threw a net over Scarlet in GI Joe, or whenever anyone was bound, even if it was pretend. My sexually formative years were shaped by things I may not have been ready for…I somehow got a hold of tentacle-rape Hentai at 12, saw movies like Jade, Bound, and KIDS before 14, and got into all sorts of trouble downloading porn back when AOL was big in the 90s, and I’m sure pervy old men have masturbated to my pictures…an adolescent with a digital camera is always going to take nudes.

I was never obsessed with any one particular piece of sexuality; I have an interest in experiencing as much of it as I can, and tasting it all. How else can you find out what you like or don’t? Jane would describe me as “Smart & Eager to Please (his mistress)”. That’s pretty accurate. Lately I’ve been submissive but I can be Dom. That’s called a “Switch” it’s sort of like the Bisexual of the BDSM world.

Anyway, enough about that – the topic I want to discuss is Forced Feminization. A surprising amount of guys are into this fetish. Forced Fem is akin to Cross Dressing, but it very different from a guy who wants to become a girl. Forced Fem is when you are forced to be a girl. Not just in dress, but makeup and hair, shaving arms and legs too – sometimes its called being a sissy.

Recently I’ve been seeing someone as my submissive self, and she loves making me into a girl. Lately, every time before we get intimate, she makes me put on her clothes – teddies and thong panties. This relationship has been my first Forced Fem experience. A few weeks ago we went shopping together; she had picked out an outfit for me – a frilly black negligee, lacey black thong panties, a black garter belt and black stocking that lace up in the back. I was completely terrified because she was a little loud about how cute it’s going to look on me, but I don’t think anyone was close enough to hear.

A few things about girl clothes – they are really soft…and complicated…it takes forever to lace those stockings up, and latching them to the garter belt requires finesse…the panties feel like you’re not wearing any underwear at all…but oh boy does it all look & feel sexy. We do some makeup also– lipstick, eye shadow, and eyeliner. It’s really given me an appreciation for the trouble girls go through. Recently she got me a short wig, and it really completes the look. When I get all girl’d up I look like a petite little Goth chick. My Domme absolutely gushes over it, since she was a big into that scene. I turn pretty red and can’t look at myself in the mirror, but she grabs me and forces me to, usually whispering in my ear to accept this as part of who I am. We still have a lot more ground to cover though; I’d like to try skirts and dresses next.

Personally, being forced to feminize is really embarrassing, but it’s also really sexy. Part of the attraction is giving up your style, letting someone else shape your dress as they want you. If you’ve ever had an interest in this, bringing it up in a vanilla relationship can be tricky, and might even freak your girl out. My advice is to feel it out, and if you’re in a committed relationship let her know it’s important to you. Some girls will get really into it, especially since it’s such a change from what they are used to, and role reversal is hot as all fuck.

Forced Fem isn’t something I can see myself doing with every partner, but it’s certainly fun to do.

-Puddles

Sexlopedia: Pegging

Puddles — Thu, 15 Jul 2010 14:46:59 +0000

Pegging: is the act of bending over your boyfriend and violating his ass with a strap-on. It’s considered a gender-reversal, since the woman is the penetrator and the male is the receiver. Pegging is done for many reasons, sometimes it is used as part of a BDSM relationship, other times it is used to stimulate the boyfriends prostrate so he comes rainbows.

Topco’s Grrl Shorts Strap-On Boy Shorts Harness

Men insecure with their sexuality consider pegging “gay” or “homosexual”, I’d like to point out that they are wrong, since Pegging happens between the opposite sexes, and homosexual anal sex is between same-sex partners. Just because something goes into an ass doesn’t make it gay. It depends on if the person who puts it there has a penis or a vagina.

Finally, Pegging is pretty hot. Before you approach your partner about it, make sure you know what your doing by reading up on some resources, and getting the proper gear that’s right for you.

<3 Puddles

Sexpert Jane Blow » Puddles

It’s a Trap!

Related Posts

Sexlopedia: Transgender Terminology!

Related Posts

Puddles: In Need of a RT Dom

Related Posts

Puddles, An Introduction.

Related Posts

Sexlopedia: Pegging

Related Posts