Anal, some say it’s taboo or dirty or even just plain wrong. Now I am aware you can’t teach an old dog new tricks and there is no converting someone who is already set in their ways BUT hopefully I can get to all you fence sitters about giving anal a try! The more you keep an open mind about anal sex or even anal foreplay, then the more you discover about yourself.
Also don’t let one bad experience dictate everything, Ladies you all know the first time you have sex is the WORST, but yet you try it again after that. Why don’t we work the same way with anal?
To ease the pain of listening to me drone on about anal sex for awhile I’ll cut this short, sweet and comical by telling you of MY lovely first time having anal sex. I was 16 and dating a guy who was in his early 20′s, he was well experienced in anal sex and promise it was worth it. At that point in time he was trying to romance me by bringing me on a “dingy” he called a boat so I guess the only trick you have left is to making promises about anal sex. I reluctantly agreed and with VERY little anal foreplay involved we got down to the nitty gritty. Since obviously in a boat we weren’t well prepared and therefore lacking in the lube department we used Lubriderm (I SHIT YOU NOT!!!! PLEASE don’t ever try that at home!).
Now this guy (I’m not just saying this because he is an Ex, it’s the truth here) doesn’t have the length or girth to make regular sex uncomfortable with the virgin mary, but still shoving that at my ass was uncomfortable to say the least. Yours truly being and awesome girlfriend at the time clenched my jaw and waited until he was done, to this day I still have no idea why I didn’t just say stop or talk about how uncomfortable I was.
After that 15 minutes of anal sex was over (being generous here with the time), the idea of anal sex was a very distant thought to even say the least. Only when I was watching porn and realizing some women really do love it did I consider it again. Although this time I was smarter, instead of jumping on some guy- I bought sex toys and with the thought of “who can I trust more than myself”. Discoverig what I did and didn’t like, how to relax some muscles, what felt like proper anal foreplay and so on. I did this until I felt comfortable trying it with a person because then I could easily say if I was ready or not. Years later I am down for any kind of anal play! Well, anything short of a fist in my butt.
What I am getting at here is that don’t let one terrible experience ruin something that could be awesome. If you are nervous talk to your partner – do what I did and go on some solo adventures! You can’t say you don’t like something until you fully give it a go, so give it the good old college try!
Always keep an open mind, and NEVER use Lubriderm!
<3 Barbie