Dear Jane

Dear Jane: I’m Bigger Than a Regular Condom; But Not Big Enough for a Magnum Condom

Posted by on 8/25/11 at 10:13 am

Dear Jane <– Ask me a question!!

So.. I’m just slightly too small for a magnum, it feels like. What should I get?

 

There are several sizes of condoms, but some words are hidden in the naming of the product from the companies to help differentiate their brand from others.

Fitted = smaller than regular. I’ve been told that Kimono brand condoms run small too.

Most condoms are “regular” if they don’t have any special wording on them pertaining to size (Magnum, Max, Fitted…). Usually the fun condoms are “regular” fit or “average” fit. This would be all the fire Ice, Studded, Ribbed, Twisteds… Extended Pleasure, Warming. Most Polyurethane, and I believe all Lamb Skin condoms are also regular fit unless it says differently on the box.

Large. Trojan has a “large” condom that is smaller than their Magnums. These don’t come with any special add-ons that I’ve seen yet. These are either really hard to find, or they discontinued them in most places. I’ve noticed the Ecstasy condoms are also a little larger than usual, probably because of the new fit design. Anything with that bulb up front (like the Twisted pleasure) will give you a little more room.

Magnums are larger than large in the Trojan brand condoms. Companies have given magnums the Ecstasy lube and warming lubes too… so be careful what pack you pick up.

And there are also XL Magnums and Durex XXL.

READ CAREFULLY! Be proud that you’re practicing safe sex and stand in that condom isle an extra 5 minutes to read the packaging carefully. That makes 5 sizes of condoms and an array of lubes and textures to sort through.

Keep reading →

Categories: Dear Jane

Tags: , , ,

Discuss: There are no comments, add your take.

Dear Jane: I Met A Shemale Online, Help Me Avoid Saying Something Stupid!

Posted by on 8/3/11 at 10:54 am

Dear Jane, <– Ask me a Question!

I have become friends with a shemale on a social media site I want to avoid sayin’ something stupid HELP Please.

Girls are taught how to be girls; Later in life some of us learn how to become women.

There are two important things you need to remember.

1. We’re all humans before we are woman, man, female, male or born in the wrong body, and in transition.

2. The cat needs to be let out of the bag to some extent, at least once, so you can get to know her preferences and so she knows she can be open with you.

Keep reading →

Categories: Dear Jane, GLBT

Tags: , , , ,

Discuss: There are no comments, add your take.

Dear Jane: I Have A Tickling Fetish

Posted by on 7/13/11 at 1:00 pm

Dear Jane, <– ask me your question!

What advice would you offer to someone with a tickling fetish who is in a relationship?

I ask first, if you just like the tickling part? The laughter, the control, the light breath play, the could be torture. How childish it feels and that it is technically innocent playing around.  Or, if it is something you need as part of your sexual foreplay?

If it is just good clean fun, then tickle away, and hope your partner likes the game as much as you do.  Let them in on your secret and have fun with it.  Think of new ways to elicit a giggle or from the belly laugh with different implements. Feathers, felt, and find secret tickle spots never discovered before.

It could be a fun bonding game for you both, but be sure not to tickle at the wrong time. Me personally, if I’m upset or angry, telling me a joke or tickling me will not get me to smile again.  Likewise, if you know your partner likes to be tickled, don’t put them in an awkward position, say, at a family dinner where they will get mad at you.

Tickling when you’re younger, is a game of allowed touching that wasn’t pushing the person you liked. It is a way for you to get close to someone and touch them that isn’t going to put a person on guard. Instead there is laughter, bonding, some play fighting and smiles… which could lead to cuddling, and kissing.  There is a simple and easy connection between tickling and fetish.

Keep reading →

Categories: Dear Jane

Tags: , ,

Discuss: There are no comments, add your take.

Dear Jane: How Fast Can I Get A Woman To Squirt?

Posted by on 7/6/11 at 11:00 am

Dear Jane, <– Want to see other questions people have asked me? Ask your own here.

How can I get my girlfriend to squirt in a very little amount of time?

Once you align the correct stars, it’ll only take minutes… if you prepare her correctly and she is in the right mood.

Squirting, aka Female Ejaculation isn’t a speed sport.

She must be turned on, she must be able to let go, and it helps if she knows she is a squirter and likes to do it often.

You know best how to turn on your lady.  Many things have worked for me … kissing, oral sex, and some specific finger work mostly… but your main target is to find her g-spot and stimulate it firmly. Be sure to trim your nails please.

The “come here” motion with your finger(s) tends to work, but I’ve found that a firm two fingers putting firm pressure in a sweeping/fucking motion works too. That Porno Pull-Up/Pelvic Bounce motion also works for some women, not recommended for all. There are also a few toys that are particularly good at helping G-spot squirty orgasms.

If you’re doing it right, you’ll hear her get wetter and her vaginal muscles will loosen a little. If you don’t know her signs of impending orgasm, tell her to tell you when it is going to happen.  Make sure you keep in mind what you’ve done to get her there.  Once she is stimulated enough to squirt, it is easier to keep her orgasms rolling … uh … like waves.

My stunt cocks said they’ve gotten a woman to squirt within …

Keep reading →

Categories: Dear Jane

Tags: , ,

Discuss: There are 2 comments, add your take.

Dear Jane: Where Do I Get Pony Play Gear?

Posted by on 6/22/11 at 1:49 pm

Dear Jane, <— Ask me a question, as you can see, anything goes!

My girlfriend wants a pony–me! However, we can’t seem to find any places online that is a good store for pony play gear. Do you have any suggestions?

There are a few places I can send you to that I know of and some tips on how to get the effects and stick to a budget.  Unfortunately _______ play fetishists need deep pockets depending on how real they want to get.  Doesn’t matter which, but the bigger the animal and the more real you want to get, the more money it is going to cost.

BUT the gear is beautiful, and crafted well, and really helps you both get into the head space required to have a good time with it.  You’ll feel more proud as a pony in good gear too.

I’m not a pony player, but I did a pony girl photo set once (and I’m a gear slut – the more, the better) and there was SO MUCH gear involved. I had a really great time! /memories.

Keep reading →

Categories: Dear Jane, Sexlopedia, Series

Tags: , , ,

Discuss: There are no comments, add your take.

Dear Jane: My GF Orgasms When Listening to “Strict Machine” by Goldfrapp… Is This Normal?

Posted by on 6/15/11 at 10:19 am

Dear Jane <– Click here, ask me a question!

My girlfriend and I have found that she can achieve an orgasm by giving oral while listening to the song “Strict Machine” by Goldfrapp. It works every time. (I think it’s because the song makes her subconsciously super submissive.) Is this common?

 

I have a friend who can orgasm to the song Sex on Fire by Kings of Leon… I kind of envy her imagination.  It has been a while since a simple thought and my hands did all the work.

As for your gf…

Keep reading →

Categories: Dear Jane

Tags: , , , ,

Discuss: There are no comments, add your take.

Dear Jane: I Want to Sleep With My Best Friend’s Boyfriend

Posted by on 6/8/11 at 11:00 am

Dear Jane, <– This is an anonymous link, you can ask me anything and I’ll do my best to answer!

I’m in lust with one of my best friend’s boyfriend; I have a sneaking suspicion he wants inside of me. IF I were a terrible friend and wanted to sleep with him, how would I go about inquiring if he and I are on the same page?

Well, sounds like you’re asking permission to do something you are going to do anyway, so I’m going to approach this like this:

First

I’d examine your friendship and figure out if it is all worth it first.  Think about WHY you want to sleep with him.

Is your boyfriend being a dick lately so sleeping with someone who treats their girlfriend “the right way” will make you feel like you are sticking it to your guy?

Are you single, and um, it has been a while? You like him, trust him, and your BFF constantly says he is a good lay?

You liked him before your BFF started dating him so you’re stuck with “Coulda, Woulda, Shoulda” feelings?

Do you even consider her an actual best friend, did she slight you?

Hell, you could just like the thought that he might want to see you naked.

Would you follow through if he said yes, or are you looking for a justification for if you’ve “still got it” ?

Maybe you like the drama, the scandal.  There is no rush like doing something you’re not supposed to.  Sort of like defying gravity and jumping out of a plane.

I don’t know, I don’t know you or your friend’s situation; But I do know you should probably think about all that first before you jinx yourself and lose your friend crew.

But, like you said, IF you were a terrible friend… it should probably go down like this…

Second

Keep reading →

Categories: Dear Jane

Tags: , ,

Discuss: There are no comments, add your take.

Dear Jane: Any Advice on Cougars? Yes

Posted by on 6/1/11 at 11:00 am

Nope.  I’ve nothing personally.

I only see Cougars (who I differentiate from MILFs) when they come to my store to restock their sex toy pantry.  I’ve never personally hunted one or hunted with one. BUT… The 3 Stunt Cocks I asked have, and this is what they have to say.

My Infamous Pervy Friend (aka MIPF): Had this special get up he put on, which made it extremely easy for him to get all sorts of laid – whether he was going for Spring Chickens or Cougars. It is a cheat because some women want to notch their bed post with one of his kind.  To which he says, “It helps as a deal sealer, so don’t be a braggart.  Humble confidence is key when you have a cool job”.  He equates Young Drunk Party Chick Types to Cougars on the Prowl… they’re out for something.  Younger women need the alcohol and Cougars on the Prowl have a one track mind but still have their wits.

So in the end, although helpful, he doesn’t count.  Unless of course, you’re also one of those guys.  In this case, don your uniform or make sure the convo touches on what you do for a living.

Mr. Monstar: Gave me a quick guide that can be applied to most women, but he says the key to Cougars is,

“When you talk to one you have to be confident because they’re predators. You have to show them that you can handle what they have.  He says go where they are, there’s always a few hang outs/bars/locations where it is known Cougars like to use as hunting grounds.  You can’t use the bullshit you sling at younger girls, because they know the deal and heard all the bullshit before.  Usually they’re pretty honest about what they’re intentions are and it’s almost never a relationship.  In bed a Cougar will always teach you something new so take it as a learning experience too.”

He continues to say, “It is flirting… you get the point. You can bring a friend because some Cougars are in packs.  And that is basically it, you either have it, or you don’t.”

All in all, Mr. Monstar relies on confidence and the amazing game of Flirtation.

But the most revealing account, came from Stunt Cock #3 I’m Not Drunk, I’m Awesome (aka INDIA). He has infiltrated a few Cougar Dens, and just this weekend went out to test his skills for the purpose of this post.  I hope to follow his progress and report back to you.  Read what he has to say:

“Cougars: The Prey That Preys Back…”

Keep reading →

Categories: Dear Jane, Guest Posts, How To

Tags: , , ,

Discuss: There are no comments, add your take.

Dear Jane: How Do You Gain Sensitivity Back After Masturbating Too Much?

Posted by on 5/26/11 at 11:48 am

If one has lost some sensitivity from masturbating too much, how could one gain that sensitivity back? And maybe ween themselves off of the hand a bit?

First off, what is “too much”?

A few times a week? Every day? 10x a day? Don’t leave your house?

Answer:

It really shouldn’t matter unless masturbation is affecting you like a symptom of obsessive compulsive disorder.  Masturbation is fine and dandy but you’re concerned with “over doing it” and gaining sensitivity back.

You’re just as sensitive as you were, you’ve just worked up a tolerance it seems.  It is a common myth to think you can “rub out sensation” during masturbation.

Keep reading →

Categories: Dear Jane

Tags: , , , ,

Discuss: There are no comments, add your take.

Dear Jane: How Do I Be Submissive?

Posted by on 5/18/11 at 11:12 am

Dear Jane, <– Click here to ask me a question anonymously!

Why is it so hard sometimes to get past one’s ego and pride and fully commit to being submissive? Think I worded that right.

I think I understand what you’re asking.  You want to know how to get past how you assert yourself in the “real world” so you can let go in your “play world”.

Our momma didn’t raise no fool, we’ve been taught to stand out, be proud, don’t sell ourselves short and “be a man”.  Be a proud confident, doesn’t take your shit, woman.  Be the lion, not the lamb.  We were taught to go for the gold, never back down, be up for a challenge and not to hit women.

What you’re forgetting is that the submissive HAS the power, not the Dominant in a  Power Exchange.

Keep reading →

Categories: Dear Jane

Tags: , , ,

Discuss: There are no comments, add your take.

← Older Posts
Newer Posts →
admin