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Posted by JaneBlow on 1/21/11 at 11:00 am
I was asked to be on the Your Time With Kim (Iverson’s) radio show. They told me the topic was Swinging, and I was excited. They asked me to talk about jealousy, how to have that ice breaking conversation, tips, and a personal story. I had 7 minutes, and they told me to keep it PG. The show is syndicated in other states and I figured it could be fun. I didn’t know if they were FOR or AGAINST swinging, and since they asked me “as a sexpert” what my thoughts were, I hoped that Kim would play a good middle person. That she (her audience) was curious, and looking for answers. I didn’t think I would have to say anything for or against swinging, I was just going to give facts as best as I know them from experience.
Plus, hey, as much as I like writing – it was a new medium to catch an audience with!
Educating people, open minds, shining light on a new to other people topic AND personal experience? Sign me up! Here it is, hook line and sinker. If you’ve never tuned into the Time With Kim show, then I suggest you take the hour or so and listen to the whole thing to get to know her a little. You know me, mostly, if you’re already a follower or lurker or even a newbie. If you want to skip ahead, go to the 55 minute mark.
————>THE TIME WITH KIM SHOW : SWINGING<———–
Alright, that’s the neutral stuff I have to say about the show, the beginning, before I was called and … questioned. For a full out rant, rebuttal, and for sure a TL;DR post with lots of personal info in it …
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Categories: Interviews, Workshops
Tags: alien, hey epiphora, jealousy, podcast, Swinging, Tristan Taormino
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Posted by JaneBlow on 6/18/10 at 1:36 pm
The foreskin is the uncircumcised skin on a man’s penis. It is like a sleeve that covers the head of the penis. Every man was born with foreskin. Most countries do not perform circumcisions, which makes Americans the MINORITY in the “nip the tip” game.
During circumcisions most of the (nsfw) Frenulum is removed, this making the penis less sensitive. Furthermore, circumcisions expose the penis and make it far less sensitive altogether. The circumcised penis spends its day rubbing against boxers, zippers, jeans, and other materials.
While the penis with foreskin is protected from the world!
Don’t think that in your bedroom hopping roulette game, you wont one day come into contact with foreskin. It’s out there and I’m telling you to not be scared of it!
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Categories: Jane Says, Workshops
Tags: confidence, foreskin, uncircumcised, Workshop
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Posted by JaneBlow on 5/28/10 at 11:22 am
Valspeak aside, we’re discussing The Gag Reflex!
Gagging is USUALLY associated with Deep Throating, but not always – for those who find brushing their teeth a difficult task – I bet you have trouble giving head too? Stupid Pharyngeal Reflex.
Deep Throat…Before it was a famous porn title, and before you freak if you can’t do it right away – I will tell you that it isn’t necessary for an awesome Blow Job experience. So go home and tell him that pornography isn’t illustrating how many women cannot deep throat, and don’t like anal sex or huge toys jammed into their Vajay. (Sorry guys, you still love me, right?)
Not everyone is going to be able to control their gag reflex, in all honesty almost no one can control it right from the get-go. Gagging is a natural reaction, it is what your body does to keep you from choking; don’t be embarrassed by gagging.
The most important thing about deep throating is control. Being in control is your best asset in the situation, without control an over excited guy; he can thrust while you are not ready and damage your throat or vocal chords. For your own safety I’m going to translate what you see in porn – and what they are actually doing.
TIPS:
Have him start out soft, so you can let him grow in your mouth. This helps you get accustomed to his size slowly.
Breathe out as he pushes into you; breathe in as he pulls out.
A Porn Star holds her breath and the guy goes wild with her. What you don’t know, or see is a little tap out move they do. The women hold their breath and when they need to come up for air they tap a leg or have a certain safety move.
The best way to get past a gag reflex is to start SLOW! Use a good amount of lube, or saliva and slowly push each inch of his penis into your throat. From there you control the pace and practice your breathing, keep going as you get accustomed to each inch. If you feel the gag you can back up a little bit and try again.
Another Porn Star move is when the women have a small gag reflex to get past – they swallow. They pretend they have food in their mouth…and give a little swallow. This move pushes him back further and tricks your body into thinking that there is nothing in your throat. After you get past the gag reflex it should be smooth sailing.
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Categories: Jane Says, Workshops
Tags: Blow Job, gag reflex, oral sex, Safe Word, Workshop
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Posted by JaneBlow on 5/14/10 at 2:02 pm
You’ve searched far and wide, you’ve tried seemingly everything and still no orgasm? Maybe I can help you.
You read the post about viewing sex goals like a Road Trip, right? Oh, ok good. I used the example “Minute Man”, but I could just as easily plugged in Female Orgasms into the same equation.
Whether you’re going on a solo mission, or trying really hard to make your lady orgasm there are a few things (I can count 9 at the moment) that need to be said.
1. Stop trying, stop pushing, and stop stressing. Stop viewing it has “a problem”, stop making it THE GOAL. By doing this you are only causing anxiety, and an anxious pussy doesn’t orgasm.
2. Ladies, relax. I know, easier said than done. But try to relax. If you are going into sex stressed, nothing is going to happen. You have to view the situation as positive, a learning experience, and still have fun with yourself and your partner.
3. Get down with yourself. Yes, masturbate (if you don’t already). Use your fingers, touch yourself over your panties, with different firmness, rub yourself in small circles, hold four fingers together stiff as a board and swipe them back and forth over your vulva/clit. Go fast, go slow, explore a little and get a pocket mirror – create different stimulation points and techniques. We are all different, with 1 unifying factor- The Clitoris. If you think masturbation is nasty or gross, and don’t know how to at least create some good stimulation for yourself (no solo orgasm necessary) how can you let your partner know what to do?
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Categories: Jane Says, Workshops
Tags: hitachi wand, le petite mort, masturbation, orgasm, Pervertable, Road Trip Model, topical, trouble orgasming, waterbation
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Posted by Nikki CoXXX on 5/3/10 at 10:56 am
When I was younger, my parents were persistent about getting me to eat steak. For some reason, I couldn’t bring myself to let that slab of juicy, wet, medium rare cow slip down my throat. Oddly enough, I would suck on that piece of meat until it was bone dry… and then, as I started to gag on the rubbery substance, I would spit it back onto my plate.
Cum, like steak is an acquired taste. Some women dig it, and some are more comfortable getting their source of protein elsewhere.
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Categories: Jane Says, Nikki CoXXX Says, Workshops
Tags: blow jobs, cum, oral sex, spit or swallow, spitting, spunk, swallowing, taking the job out
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Posted by JaneBlow on 1/7/10 at 11:17 am
Today we’re going to discuss Balls… the boys, twins, nads, testes, testicles, scrotum, sack, bollocks, yarbles, gonads, nuts, huevos, cajones, the other half to a guy’s collective Junk! …etc.
Not saying “man, you’ve got BALLS if you’re going to do/say <insert crazy thing here>”
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Categories: How To, Jane Says, Workshops
Tags: androgen, ball wash, balls, balls of steel, best oral ever, bollocks, cajones, gonads, homologbus, jane blow workshop, man junk, nads, nuts, prostate, rosie palm and her five sisters, sack, scrotum, Sex, taint, testes, testicles, testosterone, the boys, the seamstress, the sherlock, the twins, truck balls, uevos, windshield wiper, yarbles
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Posted by JaneBlow on 1/4/10 at 1:46 pm
For those not following the game so far …FMK could be torture, but it is all in good fun. It was made famous by Howard Stern and movies like Step Brothers and it is called “FUCK – MARRY- KILL”. Basically, we give you a Trio of People, and out of the three you have to pick one to Fuck, another to Marry, and the other you have to Kill.
Grab your flame retardant skivvies Ive got more Fire Crotch for ya – Time to Play FMK!!
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Categories: Jane Says, Workshops
Tags: axl rose, conan o'brien, damian lewis, debra messing, fire crotch, FKM, FMK, Fuck Kill Marry, Fuck Marry Kill, Ginger, marcia cross, molly ringwald, redhead, redheads
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Posted by JaneBlow on 9/3/09 at 11:04 am
Melanie Griffith and Ed Harris were in a cute 1994 film about three boys trying to venture into manhood and find the one spot you can touch on a woman to drive her crazy. After watching scrabbled porn, and thinking flash light orbs on their tree clubhouse looked like boobies…they saved their change, their “Milk Money“, ventured into the city (on bicycle). This quest led them to meet a prostitute, save some local wet lands, and find out that the one spot you could touch on a woman that would drive her crazy… was her heart.
If you haven’t seen the movie, I’m sorry for the spoiler but it is a cute movie to just watch.
Why did I start with that?
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Categories: How To, Workshops
Tags: AFE-Spot, Anterior Fornix Erogenous Zone, Clioris, Clit, Cytheria, Deep Dicking, Ed Harris, Erectile Tissue, Flower Tucci, G-SPot, Graffenburg Spot, I Prick U, long dicking, Melanie Griffith, Milk Money, orgasm, prostate, Pussy, Skene's Gland, Squirt, Squirting, U-Spot, Urethral Sponge, vagina
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