Dear Jane,
My boyfriend and I love oral sex and want to do it at the same time to one another, but we can’t seem to match up our bodies to do the 69 position. He is taller than me, is that the problem?
For those of you playing the home game, a 69 is when oral sex is delivered at the same time by laying in positions where their heads are in their partner’s lap. Note: The “head” of the 6 is by the “tail” of the 9 and vice versa.
Him being taller than you is part of the problem, but really, 69ing doesn’t work for many people. The common problem is positioning. Really, no matter which position you get into; may it be him laying down and you on top, the opposite, if you are laying on your sides together or the ever difficult standing 69… alignment will be off.
The quickest, cheapest and easiest way to remedy this is to prop up the head of the bottom person with pillows so they are angled towards their partner’s stuff… and another under their butt to raise it towards a face.
There are companies like Liberator and XGen who sell sex position wedges though if you want to really up your sex game.
69ing is fun, but it isn’t my favorite – I like to take turns and really enjoy giving or receiving oral sex. I did date someone who LOVED 69ing though, and it is intense to say the least. I loved to weave my arms in his legs and have a different access to him instead of a traditional oral sex position. He loved that “smothered in pussy, head surrounded by soft girly thighs” experience. Not to forget, it isn’t a horrible mini workout for your arms and abs.
I did learn before him though, that the sixty-nine position also comes in handy if you want to deep throat and you’re on top; the angle is just right.
69ing For me, becomes a difficult race to orgasm where your opponent distracts you in the BEST WAY POSSIBLE. Sometimes I’m up for the game, but not always.
<3 Jane
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