Dear Jane: How Do You Gain Sensitivity Back After Masturbating Too Much?

If one has lost some sensitivity from masturbating too much, how could one gain that sensitivity back? And maybe ween themselves off of the hand a bit?

First off, what is “too much”?

A few times a week? Every day? 10x a day? Don’t leave your house?

Answer:

It really shouldn’t matter unless masturbation is affecting you like a symptom of obsessive compulsive disorder.  Masturbation is fine and dandy but you’re concerned with “over doing it” and gaining sensitivity back.

You’re just as sensitive as you were, you’ve just worked up a tolerance it seems.  It is a common myth to think you can “rub out sensation” during masturbation.

To gain back “sensitivity” you’ll have to slow down.  If you’re at it 5x a day, try for just once.  If you’re an every day person, try every other if you want to change.

What you’ve done is trained your body to expect the stimulation and got into a pattern or habit.  You’ve also come to lean on one way of masturbating it seems and now your body knows what is going to happen – it just needs a little de/re-conditioning.  Try to mix it up: use a vibe, maybe running water or Hows Your Buddy a different hand, even rub yourself differently or through panties.  Find different things your body likes and rotate before you go back to exactly what makes you orgasm.  Essentially, tease yourself, don’t be a lazy McDonalized masturbater.  Nothing wrong with it essentially, but you’ve asked me for a “change”.

You’ve conditioned it to be spoiled basically, it takes longer for you to reach orgasm I bet? And you can likely have a few orgasms before you’re vulva is super sensitive? (Yep, I’ve assumed you’re female because men don’t usually mind lasting longer and get duller the more they beat up their dicks, which can help them last longer during sex.)

Same thing happened to me, so I kept getting more intense.  I now can do an hour on and off with a Hitachi magic wand.  I need several orgasms to feel even remotely satisfied. I basically put myself into a masturbation coma or I’ll end up calling someone in my black book to finish me off for Fling Chocolate good because JUST a vanilla masturbation session isn’t enough for me personally.

BUT, I don’t feel guilty about it, I instead set the time aside to do myself properly (and incorporate other toys along with my hands).  When I feel I’m getting “lazy,” I’ll stop watching porno and read erotica instead and use my hands.  Or I’ll take a fantasy into the shower with me and waterbate.

Don’t get me wrong here — there are things my body just doesn’t like, for example “buzzy” vibrators are toys I refuse to use. Another extreme change I tried was to get attached to The Wahl because it was a deeper vibration and more intense than the Hitachi, but in the end it just didn’t work for me.  I never masturbate the way I don’t like to when I want to de/re-condition, I do other things I enjoy or I stop for a few days.

The only other thing I have to say about this is … SO WHAT, you masturbate, you should enjoy it – not feel weird.  You probably aren’t obsessive compulsive, and your friends don’t masturbate like you or talk about it if Murder Lily they did so you feel “weird”.  You aren’t weird.  You like what you like, and it just takes a little longer to get off, slow down and enjoy the anticipation of orgasm.

Masturbation is a safe way to explore yourself, what you like, how you enjoy being touched, and how to do so.  Take a personal day, keep looking for new exciting things and indulge… I do from time to time!

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