Me and the girlfriend/pet are looking to have a weekend to ourselves of 100% 72 hours of D/s. I know what my idea of that would be, but of course the man’s perspective is always lacking. What’s Jane Blow think when she hears that? Suggestions?
My idea of a 72 hours of D/s would start with a ritualistic taking off and folding of the clothes followed by a collaring or cuffing and attaching any other BDSM accessories you use. Then an inspection – rewards and punishments doled out accordingly along with a follow up to fix any problems. Shaving maintenance, jewelry, gags, whatever you’re into. Only use your play names, if you have them.
Then intermittently through the day I would set up scenes, tasks, training, eating, cleaning and sleeping rituals/times. Set up goals for what you both want to do and accomplish so that you are always working towards being better.
The ritual of BDSM gets to me – so I would love a scene immediately to help me get into subspace. A fantastic OTK spanking, with lots of talking. Talk to me, get inside my head. An impossible game, objectification, leave me in some kind of fancy bondage work for an extended period of time. You need to do more than pull hair and make someone kneel is what I’m trying to say. Take your sub into that dreamy fantastic space to set the mood/pace of your hours ahead of you.
My days would include rope work training… making sure the Top gets better at their skills, and the bottom gets better at assisting. Pausing to document and photograph any triumphs.
If/when one event leads to another – then so be it. Say your bottom looks exquisite in your work and you can’t help yourself – take advantage of it. Unless of course sex/orgasm isn’t part of your BDSM package. And don’t forget the possibilities, with the power of orgasm… don’t forget to deny or force a few on your sub for punishment or reward.
Toys, impact implements, predicament bondage, sensation play… would fill a lot of my day as well. I love toys and all their capabilities especially while I’m in some fancy rope work. Paddles, floggers, crops, slappers, whips, hands, skin are some of the impacts I enjoy and are easy to start with. There are other areas besides someone’s ass to slap and torture. Predicament bondage is particularly interesting to me too. Imagine having your sub stand near a wall, their face and breasts inches away with their finger tips on the wall…ass out. You’re behind them messing with impact, toys, and anything else you can get your deviant hands on – while they cannot let their finger tips off the wall or their body to touch it. Oh, and don’t forget to make them count it out.
Apply a blindfold, and let the real fun begin. Don’t forget to have something rough and scratchy, something soft, cold, warm… and all of those other opposites. Imagine your sub kneeling on the bed, their legs and arms bound to their body so they can’t squirm or cover up. Applying a crop to nipples, thighs, cheeks… clamps… and an ice pack followed by a well placed drip of wax. If you don’t have a wartenberg wheel, get one now.
The ritual of basic needs are also fun to play with if you’re into it; make your sub ask properly (etiquette is a good skill for subs to have), and place limits if you aren’t out right making all decisions. If this doesn’t do anything for you, make sure it doesn’t mean much to your partner either. Eating from a plate on the floor, and what they’re eating, asking to use the bathroom (which have several kinks attached), where to sleep (floor on a mat, bottom of the bed, ankle or arm cuffed to the bed).
Take your play out, and work on play in public would be fun for me; I don’t know about you two though.
Don’t forget at the end of the day to leave time for your sub to express their highs/lows from the day so you know what to do next!
I like “stuff”. But you can do all of this without stuff as well. Mental bondage and the mental side to BDSM is something I love. Mind fucking goes a long way, even the little ones. Service play goes a long way as well. Make sure they know how you take your coffee, and give an amazing blow job or other body part worship.
BDSM to me doesn’t always equal sex, most of the time it isn’t even included – but combining both is quite sweet. Quite sweet.
There are so many facets… so many things to try and do.
I have many ideas for BDSM days for me, I can give hints and tips till the cows come home but I don’t know if talking about 72 hours of MY ideas would help you. I wish I knew you two better. I could set up a fun 72 hours for you, I need to know what you’re into so I know what a true mind fuck would be and what ideas to give you that you haven’t thought of but are so close to doing without even knowing. Keep asking questions, and I promise you’ll blow your pet’s mind!
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