Make-Up Sex - ...is AAAWESOME, and I'm sure many of you will agree with me... but do any of you know WHY?

Is it a good thing or bad thing to do after a fight?

7.5 times out of 10, it is a GREAT thing.

The first strike it gets is for couples who force fight, to force the make-up sex endorphins out.  Which in the end, is a very unhealthy habit.  The second strike it gets is because some people don’t know how to let go.  When you’re fighting about everything, and nothing good is coming out of it (no lesson learned, nothing settled, no moving on)… sex is NOT the answer.  It is time to let go.  The last few points are taken away for frequency! Hopefully you’re NOT fighting often, in result making the make-up sex sessions few and far between!

Probably one of the GREATEST Fight/Make Up Sex Scenes Ever!

Other than that, make-up sex is aaawesome, and I’m sure many of you will agree with me… but do any of you know why? No?  Good think you’re here, eh?

Post fight sex is so hot, steamy, animalistic and raw because, when you fight and argue your blood gets pumping and endorphins (natural pain killer- think “runner’s high“) along with adrenaline (fight/flight hormone) are released.  Your “fight or flight” response isn’t totally reached.  When adrenaline and endorphins are mixed it becomes akin to arousal.  Your blazing attitude and heated opinions are charging you up, and often it comes out as pent up sexual aggression.

Which, results in mind blowing hot sex… and cuddling.

Yeah, you don’t notice that part do you?  Usually after make-up sex, you cuddle.  Why?

Oxytocin was also released in your euphoric love making romp; it’s the cuddle me, feel good, touch me, hold me hormone that men don’t usually experience.  Men usually experience the “roll over and sleep instinct” because prolactin is released.  Men also happen to go back to an un-aroused state after orgasm, thus the need for a sandwich not a cuddle. Women release much more oxytocin; also go back to a semi-aroused state after an orgasm (which gives them the ability to go again…and again…).

Talk about embers…

How to accomplish make-up sex?

Fights are chaotic, poke that fire and try something unexpected like grabbing your partner’s face and giving them a really great kiss.

Saying “I’m Sorry” first can work too, sex might end up extremely passionate rather then hardcore that way too.

Or you can wait till the flames die out to embers.  Start with a massage and a talk about how the fight helped you see how much you care for your partner and how much the fight showed you that you NEED them.

<3 Jane