It seems that not too many people out there are happy with the amount of sex they are having regardless of the fact that when they do get sex from their partners, the sex is reeeally good. I could preach quality over quantity; but why NOT have good sex more often?
(clip is the sex montage from Good Luck Chuck; nsfw)
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Before you start a fight with your partner, try and figure out why you aren’t getting frequent flier bedroom miles anymore.
- Are your libidos kicking in at different times of the day? It is common that men are more up for sex in the morning, and women want sex more in the evening.
- Has your sex style changed? If you once gave them your all, and now you’re only half assing sex, of course your partner isn’t so quick to fuck you.
- Has your sex NOT changed? No one likes eating the same cereal every morning; meaning, maybe your sex is monotonous and boring.
- Could you have done something your partner finds unattractive, or did you make them angry?
- Ever think you are insatiable?
- If I had the answer to why (typically) women stop being crazy and fun in bed after marriage, I’d be a very rich woman. Some people use sex to lure a partner in and stop using their bodies once they have what they want. Others lose the “umph” after children because they don’t see themselves as sexual beings anymore; just baby producers.
- There are also people who feel “how could you find me attractive?” and shut out their partners from sex.
Solutions:
1. The first thing you need to do is ask them if they are happy with their sex life as it is compared to how it was. Yep, good, old fashioned, honest, communication.
2. Holding out sex because you upset/pissed them off is a common defense mechanism. Most “sexual” issues are actually completely unrelated to sex. Time to talk about your issues before they effect the bedroom.
3. If your libidos are “off”, your solution is compromise; set your alarm to include morning sex, or try to approach your partner for sex before he is ready to hit the sack.
4. Stop being lazy in bed, go back to all those great things you were doing for them before. (Oral sex for days, acrobatic positions, public places…)
5. Might be time to masturbate more and learn to love yourself too. (Yes, you too ladies.)
6. Before you lose your sex life all together, it is time to add marshmallows to it. Get some toys, a lube that tingles, or role play. Role playing is free and freeing; don’t be embarrassed, it isn’t “you”, it is your character who is crazy in bed!
7. Share your fantasies, everyone has at least one thing they want to try.
8. Ninja Sex your partner!
9. Compliment your partner, and follow through with what you say. When you life together, you forget to do all those little things you did trying to get them to stay with you. Tell them you think they look cute that day, or smell good. If you make plans to go out – then go out. Don’t cop out and spend a “date night” in… again. These two will take you a long way.
10. Be spontaneous. You know it is his turn to do the dishes, you know he hates doing the dishes… place your body between him and the sink, slink down to your knees and give him a BJ to thank him. Stop only if he stops.
Worst case scenario is that your partner is cheating on you and it is time to talk honestly about the direction of your relationship. Be mature and take the high road – Fight for it, or sink it before it gets too ugly.
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