Sex is sex, but negative sex is hotter. When emotions and libido run high – the outcome is always explosive, sometimes addictive. To me there is a difference between negative sex and positive sex, and as long as you are a mostly level headed adult (introduce me to someone totally level headed and I’ll tell you that you’re on drugs) and are having negative sex consciously (I’ll explain in a minute), then I feel there is nothing wrong with it.
My examples are Crazy Sex, Angry Sex, Revenge Sex and Sneaky Sex.
Yeah, I know it was make up sex - but it STARTED as hate sex!
Think about it, I want you to rank them in order of best to worst in your opinion. Here are my explanations of each.
Crazy Sex is that sex you get with that slightly disturbed person. Maybe they missed their meds that morning, or their hormones sway a little more than the average person. Maybe they are bipolar, maybe they’re just a little nuts; Nothing dangerous though. There is just something about inhibitions and being nuts that makes the sex mind blowing. The climb a mountain crazy and ask what is next. That crazy guy who will drink the bottle to get the worm, that woman with the extra mischievous gleam in her eye… you know the game is on, and there will be scratching wounds.
Got what I’m saying? Good. This person is great in bed. When they get in the mood, they are a force not unlike a noreaster. They are coming, a lot, for you… NOW. They can’t be denied, so you’re better off going with the flow. As long as this person isn’t using sex as a weapon (to get stuff out of you that they need), or to use it against you, and you both know what you’re agreeing to upon meeting in the bedroom (or in public, ya never know…) then by all means – go for it. This is a conscious decision, make your bed, and fuck in it. You signed up for the drama that could ensue.
Angry Sex. This one needs little explanation. Nothing gets the blood pumping like anger… and sex. When combined, wow. Seriously, I have little else to say besides “wow”. Just don’t use sex to solve problems, and don’t start fights to have sex – that isn’t healthy behavior.
Revenge Sex is another easy one to understand. Have you been hurt so deep you’re about to use sex to make you feel better? Your SO cheated on you, so now you fuck their friend… brother… mother? They hurt your feelings so you’re going to hook up with an ex? However you were slighted… you tell them, or let them find out – and you’re even. Really sexy, nasty, dirty, and spiteful. You’ll likely break up because of trust issues – but you used sex to get even – and it doesn’t make the sex any less hot.
Ah, last but not least… Sneaky Sex. Cheaters, sneaky sex partners, dirty little secrets, curiosity fuck, opportunity knocking boots, “almost getting caught” … you’re all in this category. My personal mantra is if you’re going to “cheat” then you should find someone to be in an open or swinger relationship if you’re after the extra curricular activities. I don’t feel the need for cheating; just break up. But my ideas don’t stop cheating and dirty secrets from happening… or take away the absolutely naughty feeling it gives a person.
Opinions? Word on the street says Men and Women will rank these differently.
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