Sexlopedia: Paraphilia vs Fetish

Paraphilia is a condition involving sex fetishes where a person’s sexual arousal and gratification depend on fantasizing about, and engaging in, sexual behavior that is atypical and extreme.

Sexual Fetishism is the sexual arousal that a person receives from an object.   Fetishes could be seen as a disorder of sexual preference or as an enhancing element to a relationship causing a better sexual bond between the partners.  This can range from dangerous fetishes like Auto-Erotic Asphyxiation to the love of Teddy Bears aka Ursusagalmatophilia.

See that there now?  Not quite?  Maybe the following examples will help.

This time around, you get two for the price of one!  Sometimes it is difficult to define a term without standing on another first…

BDSM is a paraphilic lifestyle.  It is atypical.

Auto-Erotic Asphyxiation is a specific atypical act … a fetish.  This can range from snuffing their own face for a few minutes to get a little light headed — to those who chase the extreme ultimate orgasm and pass out with a belt around their necks and genitals in hand.

I know many people who live a BDSM lifestyle, it is a fetish lifestyle that most people can wrap their heads around.  Someone is a bottom the other is a Top and that is what sets their relationship apart from the vanilla world (don’t quote me here, I know there is a bit more to it than that).  BDSMers tend to have more fetishes than an average vanilla person; but there are people out there NOT into BDSM who have a very VERY strong attraction to an act, or thing and it doesn’t fit the BDSM umbrella.
I wrote about this in a beginner BDSM post a while back, but I didn’t delve into the difference between the two.

Are all BDSMers into AE-Asphyxiation? No.

Could a BDSMer be into it? Sure.

Can a vanilla person be happy with their sex life but like to include AE-Asphyxiation? Yes.

Does this make them a BDSMer? No.

Get it? Got it? Good!

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