The idea of Power Exchange has come up several times in other BDSM related posts, I’ve had questions (live and email) about what Topping from the Bottom is. Yes, the submissive has the ultimate power in the way that without one you cannot have the other. A Top is nothing without their bottom and vice versa. The bottom gives up their power and trusts their Top with it. Trusting that the Top will not cross any previously laid down boundaries, trust in protection if playing in public, and trust that a good time will be had.
What happens when the submissive starts to manipulate the situation to their favor and steps on the Dominant’s toes?
When they are pushing to get what they want by trying to take the lead?
This is Topping from the Bottom.
If Maggie Gyllenhaal in Secretary wanted a spanking, she could have asked for one. But say she made typos on purpose because she wanted a spanking instead of communicating with Mr. Grey. That would be manipulation of the Power Exchange, that would be Topping from the Bottom.
When they take the power of suggestion and make you do what they want – the Power Exchange is off balance. Time for punishment ;)
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