Posts about Anal Sex
Posted by JaneBlow on 6/2/10 at 10:26 am
Dear Jane,
My gf and I are really into anal sex, we’ve got the relax part down, and there is little to no pain and we love love love it. Our question is about lubricants. We’ve tried oils, water based lubes, silicone based lubes, hybrid water/silicone lubricants… warming, cooling, tingling, and even a numbing agent once.
We liked different things about them all, but which one is the best and safest for butt love?
That’s What SHE Said…
Actually, you’re in luck, I can positively tell you the answer to this question. Before last week, I would be slightly unsure and give you info to the best of my knowledge and opinion. There was much speculation about the correct lubricant for anal sex because proper studies weren’t done until now.
Some sexperts said that water based is best for the body because the body breaks it down – but the glycerine would cause um, “upset stomachs”.
Same thing with oil based lubes – the GLBT community S W E A E R S by oil based for all sorts of sex toy play (especially fisting) and that same… uh… problem.
When silicone lubricants hit the xxx market, then everyone switched to proclaiming silicone was queen for the Bend-Over Betty’s.
But now we have a definitive study from The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health to stick with!
The anal anxiety to our butt love lube deciding woes are over, the experts say that silicone lubricant is better for anal sex. Time to put away the Crisco.
Here’s the basic information: Researchers identified the most commonly used sexual lubricants in a survey, then went and tested their effects on tissue and cells “in vitro”, i.e. in the lab. They found that most of the popular water based lubricants have so low of a PH and so much salt and/or additives in them that they’re actually toxic to rectal and cervical cells as well as to the healthy bacteria that keep a vagina clean and happy. On the other hand, silicone lubricants were found to be much safer and non-toxic in these same tests.
Keep the questions and guyqueries coming, don’t be shy! My formspring.me account is TOTALLY anonymous – but you can also email, tweet or facebook me anything you’d like to know.
Categories: Dear Jane
Tags: anal lube, Anal Sex, bend-over betty, Lube
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Posted by JaneBlow on 4/22/10 at 12:24 pm
My “Stunt Cocks” love their job.
My guys don’t star in porno, they test products for me and give me a full report. I guess I should collectively call them “Mikey” instead. You remember the Life Cereal Commercial where the kids wouldn’t try the cereal and they gave it to Mikey who ended up liking the cereal.
Recently Elbow Grease Lubricants and I were chatting on Twitter, and they ended up sending me a few samples for my stunt cock Mikey to try out. After I dug him out of masturbation heaven, this is what he had to say about one of the oldest lubricant companies out there.
Jane threw me in mostly blind to this one, made me do my research and learn the product. Since mine came in a little sample pouch there wasn’t much info to start with. She told me it was great to jerk off with, and not to use the whole packet in one session.
Facts:
- Their website says THIS one is the lube that started it all for the company back in 1979.
- Mineral oil based thick cream lubricant.
- Safe, long-lasting premium lubricant.
- Should only be used with polyurethane condoms and should not be used with latex.
Fun:
She didn’t tell me the gay community also loves this product for anal sex. That I figured out on my own with some googling - much to my girlfriend’s delight. I can understand why.
I opened up some vids on pornhub.com so I wouldn’t get this stuff all over the place. I’ve never used creams, so I didn’t know what to expect. Opening the packet was easy, I hate packets I can’t open, especially in the bedroom. You lose the moment if you’re fumbling.
I used a little less than a third of the packet, put some on my cock and some on my hand and started stroking. It started out as a cream which was cool because it doesn’t immediately make a mess. No drop cloth needed for this lube, it stays where you want it.
After a few minutes it melted. Its the only way to describe it. It went from cream, to, liquid butter sorta. I nearly came right then because it was a surprise and felt really great. I made it through a few videos and had a good time with this stuff.
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Categories: Reviews, Lubes & Lotions, Reviews
Tags: Anal, Anal Sex, aresnal, Elbow Grease Lubricants, Elbow Grease Original, Life Cereal, masturbation, masturbation cream, mikey, pornhub.com, stunt cock
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Posted by JaneBlow on 4/16/10 at 1:00 pm
All too often people are off put by the FIRST time they try something new… especially in the bedroom. There are so many variables that could make “new” go sour. All of the mistakes, none of the research, wrong lube… you could have even been with the wrong person. Maybe you didn’t fully believe in yourself or the technique you were using.
Try rolling the dice once, and see what happens, learn from the “mistakes” and talk about what could have been better WITH your partner. Any topic can be breached by talking about it. Give anal a try, spank your partner, try to swallow him whole, or make her squirt.
Second time around, you’re already coming at your idea wiser, more experienced but sometimes this roll solves only half of the “did we do that right?” It is very easy to get discouraged and give up BUT!
You’ve heard the ol’ saying “Third time’s the charm…” and it totally applies to the bedroom.
I can personally say I’ve tried this technique with a few things. Anal being one of them. I could use any other act or kink I am into to explain this… like submission, or asphyxiation… but I think anal is something many struggle(d) with. I was no exception.
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Categories: Jane Says
Tags: Anal Sex, bend-over betty, HBO Real Sex, third times the charm, Tristan Taormino
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Posted by JaneBlow on 4/7/10 at 11:31 am
Along with emails, facebook, working at a porn shop, and twitter, we all at Jane Blow use Formspring.me (FSM) to reach out to our fans and friends. Today’s question was asked anonymously over FSM. In the shop, my most asked questions are about anal sex and since we sell MANY toys, this one is asked fairly often.
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Categories: Dear Jane
Tags: Anal Sex, Anal Toy, Butt Plug, formspring.me, njoy, Pervertable, Pfun, Tantus Ace, The Tristan Plug, Tristan Taormino, Xray
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Posted by JaneBlow on 2/19/10 at 9:51 am
As some of you know, I have a formspring.me account now, and I must tell you, it has been pretty cool for me. Last week I got a good question. It is commonly asked, a simple mix up and easily answered. At work, I probably answer this question a few times a month. Before you think “is my questions relevant, important or stupid” … ask it anyway. If you have or a friend has wondered, so has someone else.
Q: If a girl can orgasm from anal does that mean there’s a “g-spot” there?
A: First a little anatomy briefing. If we’re all the same during development in the womb then where did all the penis go while the vulva formed? Simple… all of that sensitive erectile tissue created the clit, the vagina, labia majora/minora, and even the taint and around the anal opening – so 1 reason it feels good – is because it just does. Also, the anal rings/sphincters are REALLY packed with nerve endings, so its really intense for anyone on the receiving end.
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Categories: Dear Jane
Tags: anal ease, Anal Sex, Anterior Fornix, formspring.me, G-SPot, GSpot, Is there an anal G-Spot?, prostate
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Posted by JaneBlow on 12/4/09 at 11:03 am
By definition via Dictionary.com, a Taboo is something society has deemed improper or unacceptable. Doesn’t matter if it is a word, action, or thought. But I don’t think anything is too taboo to at least discuss.
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Categories: Jane Says
Tags: Age Play, Anal Sex, babblesex.com, beastforum.com, bestiality, dildo, dog and pony show, dog fucking woman, dog sex, edge play, furries, incest, incest is best, Kinky, Literotica.com, loliconrus.com, Lolita, naughty, pedophilia, Rape Play, sexpertjaneblow on aim, Taboo, Taboo sex, Vladimir Nabokov, zoophile, zoophilia
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Posted by JaneBlow on 10/15/09 at 12:14 pm
Earlier this week I proposed a question to my Tweeps and FaceBook friends asking their opinion on what they wanted me to write today. They chose “Positions & Why They Feel Good,” honestly I almost vetoed the decision. I mean, what hasn’t been said already? What haven’t you done or discussed with friends?
I’ve no idea, but we came to the conclusion that you people like us and want to hear our opinion on the subject. Maybe imagine us nakked in your bed.
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Categories: Twister
Tags: 120mm bullet by Rocks Off, Anal Sex, Analingus, balls, bullet vibe, Clit, facebook, G-SPot, GSpot, horizontal mirror, lamp, Lean Back, Long Dick, mini vibe, Missionary Position, Mons, Pillow, porno, taint, Twister, twitter
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Posted by JaneBlow on 9/24/09 at 11:41 am
If you buy a lube or lotion that tingles, it is because it has L’Arginine or Menthol in it, sometimes both. If you have a negative reaction to something with Menthol in it, try the L’Arginine and vice versa. Some of you out there are allergic to menthol and don’t know it till you try something the sex industry puts out.
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Categories: How To, Jane Says, Reviews, Lubes & Lotions
Tags: Adam & Eve G-Spot, Adam & Eve Marathon Cream, Aloe, Anal Eaze, Anal Sex, Analyse Me, Astroglide, Benzocaine, Blow Job, China Brush, Cleopatra's Secret, climax, Climax Bursts Aphrodesiac, Climax Bursts Cooling, Climax Bursts Warming, Climax Intensify, Clit, Delay Spray, Eros, Ginsing, Hard On, Head On, Ice Lubricant, ID Pleasure, Intense, KY, KY Yours & Mine, L'Arginine, Long Play, Lotion, Lube, Lydocaine, masturbation, Menthol, Nitecap Video, Nympho's Desire, Orgasmix, Pjur, Rear Entry, Rock Hard Power Spray, Sex, Wet, Yohimbe
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Posted by JaneBlow on 7/23/09 at 2:44 pm
We always encourage people to ask questions about sex and their relationships with their partners and friends. It helps eliminate Bedroom Dysfunction and misconceptions about sex. Actually, on the grand scheme of things, you should question everything (including authority).
When I was younger I’d ask all of my friends questions about their sexual life because I was curious to see if I was “the only one” who thought certain things … and to collect free porn sites. When I started, all we had was masturbation and being felt up though. I’d call it ‘A Senseless Survey’, and my friends would look forward to them because they were able to find out of they weren’t “the only one” either. I would privately collect the info, and put my friend’s answers in a paragraph and email it back to everyone. No names, no personal info. As I got older I became something of a sexual Dear. Abby. My ‘Senseless Surveys’ gave that same anticipated feeling as hearing the ice cream man from up the block did. I became my friends’ very own Pavlov. My friends told me they called my survey’s “The Ultimate Sex Cheat Sheets” and told me to write a book one day out of all of the info compiled. One day… one day.
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Categories: How To, Jane Says
Tags: Anal Sex, Bedroom Dysfunction, Blow Job, Cheat, Cock Rings, Degocast, facebook, fap, free porn, Jane Blow, masturbation, menstruation, Myspace, Nitecap Video, Pavlov, Period, porn, Questioning Authority, questions, Red Wings, Riding the Cotton Pony, Sandwich, Sex, Sexpert, Stroker, Towel, TSS, twitter
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Posted by JaneBlow on 7/16/09 at 2:49 pm
Quite frankly, I am TIRED of hearing about the “OOPS! Its in your ASS!” move. It has come up in conversations all too often this month.
You know the one!
If you don’t, here is a little reminder:
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Categories: How To, Jane Says
Tags: Anal, Anal Sex, Analingus, Jane Blow, long dicking, Lube, O'My Lubricant, tips
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