The art of eating or licking someones ass; how should one clean that area to make sure that it is clean and available for your partner to eat or lick said ass?

Preparation for analingus, is much like prep for anal sex, but it really depends on how much you’re going to do.

Within a couple hours before the sexing prep can include shaving your ass if you’re self conscious about hair, baby wipes, and possibly giving yourself a cleansing enema.

When buying an enema you want a simple set up.  Spill out the solution they give you in the bottles, it is better to just use warm water.  You’ll want to rinse your body out a couple of times till you are satisfied with the liquid coming out of your body from the enema.  You could do this all in your shower, but remember that it is all going down the drain pipes – you are better off doing the enema process on the toilet (with a good book while you wait).

Don’t wash out more than 5 times, in my opinion (and a few other professionals), this starts to agitate your bowels.

Then you can wipe up with a baby wipe.

OR

Since you’re just stimulating the surface, you don’t necessarily have to go for the uber cleaning process.

You can make sure you empty your bowels, eat stuff that day that wont make you fart if you’re paranoid about that sort of thing (it happens to some people when they’re relaxed, analingus relaxes some people), and squeegie clean with your finger tip and a baby wipe.

The safe sex version of this includes a dental dam over the anus, or plastic wrap works in a pinch… with a little bit of lube on both sides.  It is up to you if you want it flavored or not.

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How do you like to have your asshole licked best?  Some people are grossed out but I have found a majority of women melt under this technique.  Also great foreplay for anal.

By George, this person has GOT IT!

Yes, analingus, rimming, tossing the salad, licking ass… is perfect foreplay, especially for anal sex.  It helps people relax, it somewhat of an intimate taboo place to put your tongue and is a very hot spot on many people’s bodies.  The poor sensitive ring of flesh is hidden tucked away by two spankable, biteable, grabbable globes and is just waiting to be touched; even if YOU think it is a “no no” spot.

Ass licking is definitely something to try thrice, I remember my first time being very…wet.  Weird.  My mind couldn’t quite let go into a pleasure zone so I pulled his head back up to my pussy and continued on.  But he was persistent and very good at manipulating my body, ultimately he won me over.

After making sure every one is clean (I showered and took care of myself), and a quick check to see if his nails are clean and mouth is fresh – no one needs pink eye or an infection… I like a few different positions.

Of course there is doggy, ass in the hair, face mashed in a pillow while he is back there licking – or me on my back and a pillow under my butt – even the laying down from behind, one leg tucked to my chest position.

Then there are the tongue strokes – I like variety, so what works one day might not work for me the next at times.  So try a long licking stroke, circles, a back and forth motion… incorporate your fingers, maybe a toy… don’t forget my clit and we can be friends.  Actually, what I like best is having fun.  If we both aren’t down for this, it isn’t fun at all.

I’ve had a partner go for an attempt just to see what it was all about, neither of us were excited about it, and the rimming was just plain awkward.  Not fun.  MUCH more fun when you are both down for it.

If you love it, go for it!  Show your partner how much fun it is, and how good it feels – and eventually they will come around to it.

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This is for all you anal connoisseurs out there!

Rim Job: The act of stimulating your partner’s sphincter with your tongue is called “rimming”. May also be known as “Analingus”.

For anal to be pleasurable for both participants you have to make sure that the muscles in the anus are relaxed, and giving rim jobs is an awesome way to do such.  It’s surprisingly awesome, and the tongue supplies an amount of pressure that is similar to a massage and can be very soothing.

I understand that this isn’t for everyone to try, but if you are interested in giving this a shot make sure everything is SUPER clean! Even give a flavored lube a try, there are a bunch of delicious brands and flavors.

A good way to give a quick test try Rimming: when your going down on your partner just over extend a lick down to their ass and see what they does.  If they stop you play it off as a mistake and if they like it keep going! You are taking the first step on the path to get some back door loving if they are holding out on you.

Good luck and happy licking on your lovers!

<3 Barbie

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I’ve no idea, but we came to the conclusion that you people like us and want to hear our opinion on the subject.  Maybe imagine us nakked in your bed.

WANT!

As far as positions go, there are only a few basic ones; the rest are modifications and adaptations on the basics.  Since this is going to be a reoccurring subject we’re going to give you some classics, and then suggest some modifications and tell you why they feel better.

1. Missionary

Ladies:

Put a pillow under your butt because (you know he wont do it) this will elevate your hips.  His penis has a natural curve, so does your vagina, by rocking your hips up the angle you’re at is exaggerated which makes your G-Spot easier to hit.

This also makes it easier for you to play with your clit if you lay your palm on your mons (link NSFW) and wedge your fingers around your clit and rub.

Potentially you can also place a finger or two inside of yourself against your G-Spot.  It’ll make you tighter of course, and give you max stimulation.  The industry also has a toy for this, I can’t wait to write the review on it!!

Lastly for you gals, don’t leave your legs out straight, open them up wider – the wider they are the more blood flow there can be to the area which makes you more sensitive thus making sex feel better.

Guys:

Put a pillow under her butt, and play with her clit… and possibly her ass.  Anal can also be achieved with the pillow under her butt.  So not only can you get anal, but you can seem like a ‘good guy’ too!  How? Many women dislike anal because most only do it in Doggy position (which some find mentally uncomfortable, as well as physically)… they can’t eye gaze and all that mushy stuff.

Lean Back, while directly on top of your girl you’re not getting max stimulation.  Lean back, and wrap your arm around her legs and thighs, use them to help you thrust.  Plus, you can totally Long Dick and watch it. If you are laying with her, don’t forget to kiss her and her neck.

GLBT: (don’t think I’ve forgotten you all!)

The pillow trick is totally Unisex – what works for G-Spots, works for Prostates. Pillows are great for oral sex too, gives your neck less of an angle to battle with. The the opening your legs wider trick, increasing blood flow feels great for women, and gives men a better hard on.

Get a lamp. Why? Because sex in general in the dark, is boring and an over head light is too much.  You can’t pick out the liars, and you can’t see what is really turning your partner on.  Your partner’s body will tell you what feels good even if they aren’t.  Their skin will flush and glisten with sweat, nipples will be hard, facial expressions change – if you fuck in the dark you’re missing part of the show!

hm… this is getting a little long, I guess I’ll just cover one other classic.  Leave you wanting… more.  I’d have to say, Anticipation is a “position” people don’t use much anymore.  This totally counts as #2.

3. Doggy; Rear Entry

Ladies:

Ya know in porno, how the girl’s face and shoulders are against the floor/couch and her ass is all up in the air taking it like some whore?  That is because it feels best like that, so get off your hands and forearms… and hold onto something in front of you.  This arches your back, tilts your hips, and makes you look sexy as hell.

Reach between your legs and rub your clit… reach a little further and palm rub his balls for a stimulating surprise for him too.  It was pretty funny when I did that for the first time (to me), a minute later her was done (this new power was addicting).  Also, don’t be sad if that happens; just means you can go again sooner and he’ll last longer the next time around.

Try reaching back, and grasping hands along the side of your body, he’ll be able to lean back and it will put a major arch in your back.  Pretty cool modification in my book.

Guys:

It wouldn’t hurt if you put your hand under her and rubbed her clit a bit too, but I know it is like chewing gum and walking for you – so get a mini vibe and hold it there.  She will eventually take it from you because it feels good and you can go back to varying up your thrusts and grinding.

Push her hips down, lay her flat on her stomach legs together (yes I know that goes against what I said before), straddle her body, then get a little higher up on her body than you normally would.  This modification puts you at deep angle position and it feels amazing for the both of you.  Plus you get the extra rubbing from her legs being together.

Want to feel if she is lying to you?  Put your thumb on her taint.  When she cums, you’ll feel it spasm.  When you’re doing something good, you’ll feel that too.  Lube it up a little and rub her ass too,  just because she wont let you fuck her ass, doesn’t mean she wont like external stimulation (which usually always leads to anal sex in time). Little steps guys, patience, you’ll get it.

GLBT:

If your partner is on their hands and knees and you are off the bed this is another relaxing position to try oral sex.  If you want to go for the 69 make sure the person on the bottom has ALOT of pillows propping them up; that is the ONLY way 69ing works.  While you’re back there, try some analingus, it feels pretty damn awesome.

If you have a full length mirror (or go get one if you don’t) move it so it is horizontal to your bed, this way instead of seeing clips of sex, you can watch your bodies much better.  It is also one of the quickest fixes to put it back where it belongs and no one is the wiser.

If this was terribly Vanilla for you, give suggestions for the next Twister post and let us know!  For the record, we start with the basics and build from there.

What is your favorite position and why?  Have you come up with any good modifications?  Post here, and get your 15 minute quicky! ;)

<3 Jane

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You know the one!

If you don’t, here is a little reminder:

So… you’re having sex, usually doggy style, everything is great, fucking away, maybe even Long Dicking… until… you “accidentally” pull out too far from her pussy and WHAM! stick the tip of your cock (or more) in her ass… you STOP, sort of apologize… and then stay there. OR WORSE start fucking her ass even though she is all “stop stop, that hurts, wait, OMG! STOP!!”

Yeah, THAT ONE!

Don’t sooth us, don’t candy coat the pain, don’t be an insensitive idiot!

There are better ways to introduce anal sex to your girlfriend.

Have you tried asking her?  Maybe talking about how turned on it makes you?  Patience and lube are the two key words for this situation.  You can do/get anything with a little patience and lube.

Try THESE sneaky moves first, and if she responds positively, then MAYBE you can try sticking your cock in her ass that night.

1.  Go down on her, but make sure you get her in the position to make lick a little further down – go in for a quick lick, but stray down further and further – try a little analingus first.

To see a much dirtier version of this photo click on Carlo’s face… pervert.

Good response?  She sqeaks, laughs, or moans a little but pushes you away?  Still a better response than punching you in the face and ruining the moment.  Don’t think you’ll like licking it?  Try some flavored lube.

O’My Cherry Flavored Lube is a fan favorite.

2.  If going down just isn’t your thing… you still need to prep the area first.  A woman’s body has to be turned on to even try to THINK about anal sex most of the time.  So get her into the doggy position again, and as you’re fucking, try rubbing a lubricated finger over her butt hole.

3. If she moans and shows other signs of being turned on,  try slipping a finger in her ass, or a small anal safe toy.

4. If all goes well, THEN SLOWLY try your cock.
5. Recap: Work slow, patiently, talk about it, and use lubricant.

Don’t let me hear about this fuck up again!

<3 Jane

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