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I’m trying to have safe Oral (the boyfriend has herpes, I dont) but no one seems to be talking about tips for sucking a guy off with a condom. Got any advice? Should I also avoid any mouth action on the balls to be safe or can I go there? He has no sores.
Your sex lives aren’t over.
Avoid skin to skin contact surrounding times of an outbreak and during outbreaks because herpes is contagious. It can be passed during any outbreak including cold sores or genital sores. It can also be passed during viral shedding.
During an outbreak: Avoid any type of oral, I’m finding it “can be passed from genital to mouth” but it isn’t common. Wait till it passes, consider doubling up on meds (preventative) and avoid skin to skin contact.
So.. I’m just slightly too small for a magnum, it feels like. What should I get?
There are several sizes of condoms, but some words are hidden in the naming of the product from the companies to help differentiate their brand from others.
Fitted = smaller than regular. I’ve been told that Kimono brand condoms run small too.
Most condoms are “regular” if they don’t have any special wording on them pertaining to size (Magnum, Max, Fitted…). Usually the fun condoms are “regular” fit or “average” fit. This would be all the fire Ice, Studded, Ribbed, Twisteds… Extended Pleasure, Warming. Most Polyurethane, and I believe all Lamb Skin condoms are also regular fit unless it says differently on the box.
Large. Trojan has a “large” condom that is smaller than their Magnums. These don’t come with any special add-ons that I’ve seen yet. These are either really hard to find, or they discontinued them in most places. I’ve noticed the Ecstasy condoms are also a little larger than usual, probably because of the new fit design. Anything with that bulb up front (like the Twisted pleasure) will give you a little more room.
Magnums are larger than large in the Trojan brand condoms. Companies have given magnums the Ecstasy lube and warming lubes too… so be careful what pack you pick up.
And there are also XL Magnums and Durex XXL.
READ CAREFULLY! Be proud that you’re practicing safe sex and stand in that condom isle an extra 5 minutes to read the packaging carefully. That makes 5 sizes of condoms and an array of lubes and textures to sort through.
In an effort to better educate about the dangers of not knowing if your partner has a healthy crotch, I will be doing my best to put out a series of articles from the new 2009 STD CDC Surveillance Report. If you have a school project or a vested interest in the sexual health of others, you should definitely check out the link. Oh and don’t worry it’s not all bad news – we’ve actually had some STD rates go down!
First up we will look at Chlamydia. According to www.urbandictionary.com ; “Chlamydia is a common sexually transmitted disease caused by the bacterium, Chlamydia trachomatis, which can damage a woman’s reproductive organs. Even though symptoms of Chlamydia are usually mild or absent, serious complications that cause irreversible damage, including infertility, can occur “silently” before a woman ever recognizes a problem.” That definition is good enough for me. First let’s check and make sure Chlamydia is still a problem: (Only pay attention to the dotted blue line for now)
Alright, so now we know the rates are going up…next up, let’s take a look at where in the U.S. Chlamydia is hitting the hardest: (The darker the blue, the more Chlamydia in that area)
Danny and Samantha finally fell asleep. Finally fell asleep. Jane at this point was almost more impatient to lose her virginity than curious. She stood up, taking the blanket as a shield, to reach for the condoms that were mocking her. Jane Brushed the dust off the top and quietly opened the box to take a condom out. She sits back down, letting the blanket fall back over her and Ivan and pulls out the condoms.
“Hm, I didn’t know they were in a strip like this,” Ivan says quietly taking them from Jane. He carefully pulls them apart so to take just one. Flipping it in his fingers, and placing it in his big palm he looks at Jane, smiles, and puts it back in the box. ”You waited this whole time to open the box?” asked Jane.
“Yeah, I had no reason to open the box, so why would I?”
Jane couldn’t stop thinking of what her boyfriend’s mother said, it hounded her for over a month. Jane was already curious enough about sex, and just didn’t need the temptation. She knew if one of the pieces to the puzzle were missing, she couldn’t complete the picture.
This week I ventured back to a place I called home for about 3 years, the porn shop where Jane Blow and I had met. It’s a big warehouse STOCKED FULL of sex toys and pornos, they have anything from almost every walk of life. From the normal “oops it fell in my ass” to the stuff likely to be found in EuroTrip’s Vondersexxx.
While I stopped back to my old home I was reminded of how many times I would suggest things to people and say “just in case!” These idiots would ALWAYS shake their head no and look at me like I was being pushy. Then about an hour later they would slink back in and try to hurriedly buy what I had suggested not to long ago. Not to say I’m always right about what you need but sex is spontaneous, if you come home with a brand new toy, then you have to expect the unexpected.
So I’m sure by now you’ve all seen the “Single Ladies” Video with the seven year old girls?
Well , whether you have or you haven’t , let me refresh your memory.
Well, with the kids dancing so sexy, it seems that the one town in Massachusetts has decided that it’s time to equip their students with condom’s. In Elementary school.
That’s right, kids will now have access to condom’s as young as kindergarten! According to the policy, students will have to speak with a school nurse (or other trained counselor) before recieving the birth control.
The big shocker? Parents will not be able to opt out of this for their kids.
Fellas! If you’re not big enough to fit into a Magnum…..DON”T USE ONE!
The story goes:
Joey is fooling around with Sally (kissing, rubbing, etc.) and the signal to escalate things is given, “do you have a condom?”. Joey, with a big grin, pulls out that shiny golden wrapped MAGNUM condom and sees Sally’s eyes light up. She lays back and waits for her prize. After 5-10 minutes Joey ejaculates, pulls out, and realizes his penis is bare. “Oh no! Where’s the condom?”. That’s right, it is inside Sally.
Sally runs out of the room in a panic and performs what looks like “a little girl’s pee-pee dance” for Joey’s roommate. Over and over she repeats “It’s stuck! It’s stuck!”. She runs into the bathroom, slams the door, and after a few minutes the sound of a tire deflating is heard. She strolls out a much relieved girl.
As women, it is safe to say that when we were younger, we were naive enough to believe that having sex was some kind of an experience right from the pages of a Danielle Steele novel. You know, the rose peddles leading the the bedroom, the scented candles, and of course, a Ryan Phillippe look alike, waiting in the bedroom, naked and covered from head to toe with honey. Yeah, it sucks when reality sets in, and you realize that your version of Ryan Phillippe is going bald, has bigger tits than you, a small penis, and a ball sack that smells like a dirty gym sock.
But, all ex-bashing jokes aside. Sex is all fun and games… until a girl has a pregnancy scare.
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