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Dear Jane: Help Me Talk Dirty; 5 Tips

Dear Jane,

My husband has recently said he likes being talked dirty to while having sex.  He said I used to but I don’t any more, I do not remember.  Anyway, I get so lost in cuming I forget to talk.  What do I say?

This is so common!

You probably don’t remember because you weren’t saying too much to him, but he still liked it.  You were just saying small word cues of encouragement that his ego ate up, and asked for seconds.

Most people don’t say too much honestly, even in porno.  The pros just repeat the same things over and over; when you couple that with hot sex, and how urgent you sound when you’re close to orgasm, the aural attention he is getting is more than enough for him to get off on.

There is only one other tip from porno you can take, and it isn’t talk in an annoying voice, or change yours so much you sound like a baby.  Faking it like some of them do isn’t great either, so I can’t tell you to watch it for tips.  In the last porno my coworkers had on in the store, one person actually said:

“Suck it like I bought you fucking dinner”.

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Dear Jane: How Can I Get No Strings Ex Sex?

Dear Jane,

What’s the best way to tell an old ex, you’re interested in a causal hookup?

Pam and Tommy tried to revisit, but even they couldn’t handle it.

How “ex” are we talkin’ here? Last month? Last year? Last 3+ years?

How did it end? Terribly bad? Just grew apart? Cheating?

Before approaching an ex, think long and hard about those factors.  They are an ex for a reason, and to fuck them again could open Pandora’s Box.  If you feel you’re both adult enough to just have sex, it only works for 8/10 “couples”.    The emotional baggage usually gets in the way.  After a long enough period of time you can heal from all the bad that happened, and start longing for familar, awesome sex.

It is natural, it is moving backwards, and sometimes… SOMETIMES… it is amazingly hot for a revisit.

Here are my 3 tips for getting an ex in bed again, without knowing more about your specific situation, I don’t want to get too long winded.  If you want a follow up, keep asking questions!

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Dear Jane: How To Hair Pull?

Dear Jane,

My partner really likes their hair pulled, and I think I’m good at it.  Are there other ways? Better ways? I usually just tug on their hair, nothing special.  They tell me to do it harder though, is that a good or bad thing?

oOOooh hair pulling, one of my favorites!

If your partner has long hair, you could tug from the length of their hair by making your own “Pony Tail”, or grabbing their already done pony tail.  It is the quick way to make yourself some “reigns” and tug their head around or give them a little pain with pleasure.

I’ve found it is better to get your hands in there though, deep into their hair from the scalp.  

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Dear Jane: How Do I Incorporate My Hands During A BJ?

Dear Jane,

Jane! I need some assistance. My guy and I have an awesome sex life and he’s amazing at everything he does. The sex lasts for hours, its daring, kinky, filthy (in the good/clean kind of way) and animalistic with a touch of D&S. Anyway, the thing is… Oral is fantastic he eats it better than anyone ever has and I love making love to his cock with my mouth. My problem is, that I suck at incorporating my hands. Never been one to give a hand job, and never use them when it comes to giving head.  My guy likes blow jobs, and I must keep him happy… but I suck at it. Any suggestions? HELP! I must keep my man satisfied since he makes it goal of his to do the same for me :)

The easiest way to incorporate your hands into the mix is to stroke his balls as if Sherlock Holms was “thinking” with his fingers on his chin.  As you pull your head up, slide your fingers up the sides of his balls, as your head goes down, move your hand down.  You can “warn” him that you’re going to try something new so he can concentrate on the feeling and not how you look a little spastic trying to coordinate your movements.  You’ll find a rhythm eventually with practice.

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Dear Jane: How Do You Like To Be Rimmed?

Dear Jane,

How do you like to have your asshole licked best?  Some people are grossed out but I have found a majority of women melt under this technique.  Also great foreplay for anal.

By George, this person has GOT IT!

Yes, analingus, rimming, tossing the salad, licking ass… is perfect foreplay, especially for anal sex.  It helps people relax, it somewhat of an intimate taboo place to put your tongue and is a very hot spot on many people’s bodies.  The poor sensitive ring of flesh is hidden tucked away by two spankable, biteable, grabbable globes and is just waiting to be touched; even if YOU think it is a “no no” spot.

Ass licking is definitely something to try thrice, I remember my first time being very…wet.  Weird.  My mind couldn’t quite let go into a pleasure zone so I pulled his head back up to my pussy and continued on.  But he was persistent and very good at manipulating my body, ultimately he won me over.

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