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My girlfriend and I have found that she can achieve an orgasm by giving oral while listening to the song “Strict Machine” by Goldfrapp. It works every time. (I think it’s because the song makes her subconsciously super submissive.) Is this common?
I have a friend who can orgasm to the song Sex on Fire by Kings of Leon… I kind of envy her imagination. It has been a while since a simple thought and my hands did all the work.
As for your gf…
Categories: Dear Jane
Tags: audiophile, Dirty Talk, mind fuck, ohmibod, Power Exchange
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These are a few of my favorite thiiiiiiiings… If there is one thing I love and appreciate, it is Coprolalia. It is right up there with knowing the term Amomaxia.
Coprolalia is the technical term for ‘talking dirty’ and I’m adding ‘during sex’.
For me, fucking a dirty wordsmith, is heaven. Just a few select words can send me to orgasm; and the words echo in my mind until next time. Just don’t confuse this with involuntary-coprolalia notably found in people who have Tourrettes Syndrome.
Original Fact via @WtfSexFacts
See Also: Your Paraphilia Word Of The Day: Narratophilia via @DarkGracie
Categories: Sexlopedia
Tags: coprolalia, Dirty Talk, narratophilia, Talking Dirty
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My husband has recently said he likes being talked dirty to while having sex. He said I used to but I don’t any more, I do not remember. Anyway, I get so lost in cuming I forget to talk. What do I say?
This is so common!
You probably don’t remember because you weren’t saying too much to him, but he still liked it. You were just saying small word cues of encouragement that his ego ate up, and asked for seconds.
Most people don’t say too much honestly, even in porno. The pros just repeat the same things over and over; when you couple that with hot sex, and how urgent you sound when you’re close to orgasm, the aural attention he is getting is more than enough for him to get off on.
There is only one other tip from porno you can take, and it isn’t talk in an annoying voice, or change yours so much you sound like a baby. Faking it like some of them do isn’t great either, so I can’t tell you to watch it for tips. In the last porno my coworkers had on in the store, one person actually said:
“Suck it like I bought you fucking dinner”.
Categories: Dear Jane
Tags: Dear Jane, Dirty Talk, Talking Dirty
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Have you ever walked passed someone and thought, “Wow I would love to fuck the shit out of you?” (If you said no, you are lying by the way). Anyway, the physical attraction might be enough to entice the idea, but once your hottie of choice opens his or her mouth, and nothing comes out, your vagina dries up/your penis runs for cover. Well, the same thing goes for writing. You can have so many ideas, but sometimes, after playing around with them for a while, you realize that they… well, suck.
Someone needs to get laid, or buy a vibrator…
It’s Monday, June 7, 2010. The time, 7:30 in the morning. I have been up since around 6, because every idea I had for an article last night got tossed to my bedroom floor after a page into brainstorming. Too tired to think, and too tired to masturbate… to help myself get into the mood to think about sex, I collapsed face down on my laptop.
As I sat around this morning, scrambling for last minute ideas, I took a second to reminisce about the days when I was writing the sex column for my college news paper. All of a sudden, the light bulb went off, and I thought to myself, well, there was that time when my ex-boyfriend literally banged a topic out of me.
It also got me thinking about an awesome slogan that should be printed across the walls of every doctor’s office, An Orgasm A Day Keeps The Doctor Away.
Anyway, let’s take a trip down memory lane, shall we?
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Categories: Jane Says, Nikki CoXXX Says
Tags: Dirty Talk, orgasms, Sex, writers block
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A few months ago I gave you these Positions to work on; here is another!
Traditionally the guy sits and crosses his legs to create a basket for his lady’s butt and you rock, grind and do little bounce motions instead of pound away at your partner. This position is good for guys who need a break from missionary, any couple who likes eye contact, kissing and being close to one another.
Other good things about this position:
Guys – Cup and hold, squeeze, grab and play with her ass and pull her into you. Hug onto her, you can scratch and rub her back … up her neck and get your hands into her hair for a tug. Play with her breasts, kiss her neck… there are MANY hot buttons that are accessible to push to make your lady moan your name. Dirty talk is so much hotter when its spoken in a position like this too.
Ladies - It is fun for you because you get a good grind against his pelvis and the shaft of his dick for your clit, with a little leaning you can also rock out on your G-Spot with this position too. The kissing, scratching, hair pulling are fair game for you too. His neck and ears are right there for you to kiss and tell him how great it feels.
GLBT – Along with the hetero couples who already know about this position, I know many of you know it as well. The advantages for you are the toys specially made to make this position rock for you and the easy access your skilled fingers and hands have. When you perfect the basics, everything else is so much more wonderful.
More pics (NSFW) and info behind the cut.
Categories: Twister
Tags: AFE-Spot, Dirty Talk, GSpot, lotus position, lotus sex, position, sex position, Twister
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Having trouble calling your significant other (aka S.O) your Slut? We can help with that!
The best tip we can give you is that you must talk about talking dirty. There is (almost) no way around it. TALK about it, TALK TALK TALK, COMMUNICATION is important. You can start by dirty txting aka Sexting, pillow talk, walk around a secluded place in public, or email… When you get comfortable using naughty vernacular, it is easy to use more of it and go deeper into the game.
Tags: 101, balance, boyfriend, compliments, dichotomy, Dirty Talk, encouragement, Erotica, flux, girlfriend, porno, Role Play, Sexting, significant other, slut, start slow, Talking Dirty, toy, whore
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