All too often people are off put by the FIRST time they try something new… especially in the bedroom. There are so many variables that could make “new” go sour. All of the mistakes, none of the research, wrong lube… you could have even been with the wrong person. Maybe you didn’t fully believe in yourself or the technique you were using.
Try rolling the dice once, and see what happens, learn from the “mistakes” and talk about what could have been better WITH your partner. Any topic can be breached by talking about it. Give anal a try, spank your partner, try to swallow him whole, or make her squirt.
Second time around, you’re already coming at your idea wiser, more experienced but sometimes this roll solves only half of the “did we do that right?” It is very easy to get discouraged and give up BUT!
You’ve heard the ol’ saying “Third time’s the charm…” and it totally applies to the bedroom.
I can personally say I’ve tried this technique with a few things. Anal being one of them. I could use any other act or kink I am into to explain this… like submission, or asphyxiation… but I think anal is something many struggle(d) with. I was no exception.
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Faceted sensualist, sex positive educator & toy connoisseur, specializing in workshops, outreach & deviant behavior.