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You’ve searched far and wide, you’ve tried seemingly everything and still no orgasm?  Maybe I can help you.

You read the post about viewing sex goals like a Road Trip, right? Oh, ok good.  I used the example “Minute Man”, but I could just as easily plugged in Female Orgasms into the same equation.

Whether you’re going on a solo mission, or trying really hard to make your lady orgasm there are a few things (I can count 9 at the moment) that need to be said.

1.  Stop trying, stop pushing, and stop stressing.  Stop viewing it has “a problem”, stop making it THE GOAL.  By doing this you are only causing anxiety, and an anxious pussy doesn’t orgasm.

2.  Ladies, relax.  I know, easier said than done.  But try to relax.  If you are going into sex stressed, nothing is going to happen.  You have to view the situation as positive, a learning experience, and still have fun with yourself and your partner.

3.  Get down with yourself.  Yes, masturbate (if you don’t already).  Use your fingers, touch yourself over your panties, with different firmness, rub yourself in small circles, hold four fingers together stiff as a board and swipe them back and forth over your vulva/clit.  Go fast, go slow, explore a little and get a pocket mirror – create different stimulation points and techniques.  We are all different, with 1 unifying factor- The Clitoris.  If you think masturbation is nasty or gross,  and don’t know how to at least create some good stimulation for yourself (no solo orgasm necessary) how can you let your partner know what to do?

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