Comments OffOur intrepid reporter performs an intimate act in an fMRI scanner to explore the pathways of pleasure and pain
WITH a click and a whirr, I am pulled into the scanner. My head is strapped down and I have been draped with a blanket so that I may touch my nether regions – my clitoris in particular – with a certain degree of modesty. I am here neither for a medical procedure nor an adult movie. Rather, I am about to stimulate myself to orgasm while an fMRI scanner tracks the blood flow in my brain.
My actions are helping Barry Komisaruk at Rutgers University in Newark, New Jersey, and colleagues to tease apart the mechanisms underlying sexual arousal. In doing so, not only have they discovered that there is more than one route to orgasm, but they may also have revealed a novel type of consciousness – an understanding of which could lead to new treatments for pain (see Top-down pain relief).
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Sex On The Brain: Orgasms Unlock Altered Consciousness
Dear Jane: I Can’t Orgasm During Sex Either. What Gives?
Dear Jane,
In relation to the “My girlfriend and I have been doing sexual things and it’s looking like I can’t cum by handjobs or blowjobs. She also has a small mouth. Help, wat do?“ post/question … I can’t cum during sex either. What gives?
Think about the things you really like, and make sure they are happening. If you like dirty talk, have your partner whisper those nasty words you need. Do you want your hair pulled? Do you need to change position? Is the temperature in the room right?
Put porn on or music to help keep your mind focused and the outside world locked out.
Are you not attracted to your partner for whatever reason? Did you just have a fight?
The last factor I could think of is…
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Erotica: Orgasmic Haikus
This week I thought I might give poetry a spin…Lets see what you guys think of Erotic Haikus. I hope you enjoy!
Touch my special place.
It yearns for the right man’s touch.
You are just that man.
Some pics are “NSFW”
Comments OffJane Says: The Orgasm Plateau Jump
After getting over the idea of starting to masturbate, allowing their partner to preform oral sex on them or lose their virginity the area people have the MOST TROUBLE with is the Plateau stage of their orgasm.
Many people have never had an orgasm despite how often they try, after talking with many of them I’ve noticed that the issue isn’t what they’re doing, it is how they feel as their body is going through the stages of orgasm. Some people get scared because of the intensity.
Dealing with the intensity is an ongoing battle that the orgasmless fight. Along with seeing great sex as a road to travel, I think the quest for orgasm should be seen the same way.
Comments OffBarbie Says: F is for FFFUUUCK
WE’RE NOW ON THE F INSTALLMENT OF THE A-Z GUIDE TO BANGING!!
For those of you guys out there who haven’t given a lady the kind of sex she needs, you guys should be aware that when we like what you’re doing a whole lot we let out the nice big “OH FFFFFUUUUCK!“ You’ll know it when you hear it cause we kind of drag out that f’s and the u’s. This trick of getting us to say that is to listen to us, know the difference between an “ooh” and an “ahh”, know which noises are good noises and bad hurty noises. The big difference is knowing the “RIGHT THERE!”
I know this an issue for you guys. Seriously, I’ve asked around and every single girl I have ever met who isn’t a virgin, had encountered this problem. It’s a fierce plague encroaching on all males around the world. This plague is known as sexual directional disability, or at least that’s what I like to call it. It exists only during sex when a woman yells “RIGHT THERE!” Something changes in a guy’s brain when he hears those words, all the sudden his dick is completely in shock and has a phobia of hitting that spot which was ohh so lovely. You could have been pounding on it for 10 minutes straight but as soon as we admit to liking it, you have got to find a brand new parking spot for you cock.
Sadly I have no cure for this yet besides calling all men dumbasses and beating them for it. I will admit to having slapped a guy for gypping me out of an orgasm. The only thing I will suggest is for us ladies to no longer tell men what we enjoy for fear that we will never cum again (but only this one time! Talk about it after so you don’t scare him away from the orgasm). Also men, can you really just even try to keep at it? It’s so sad when you get so close to a toe curling, white knuckle fist clenching fun and it just slips away so quickly. Even thinking about it now just makes me give the sad puppy face.
I would like to start a campaign now; men tell me please how to remedy this problem!!! I’ve done tons of research, well practice really, and I’m drawing a mental blank. THE WORLD NEEDS HELP!!!
<3 Barbie
Comments OffJane Says: The Elusive Female Orgasm
You’ve searched far and wide, you’ve tried seemingly everything and still no orgasm? Maybe I can help you.
You read the post about viewing sex goals like a Road Trip, right? Oh, ok good. I used the example “Minute Man”, but I could just as easily plugged in Female Orgasms into the same equation.
Whether you’re going on a solo mission, or trying really hard to make your lady orgasm there are a few things (I can count 9 at the moment) that need to be said.
1. Stop trying, stop pushing, and stop stressing. Stop viewing it has “a problem”, stop making it THE GOAL. By doing this you are only causing anxiety, and an anxious pussy doesn’t orgasm.
2. Ladies, relax. I know, easier said than done. But try to relax. If you are going into sex stressed, nothing is going to happen. You have to view the situation as positive, a learning experience, and still have fun with yourself and your partner.
3. Get down with yourself. Yes, masturbate (if you don’t already). Use your fingers, touch yourself over your panties, with different firmness, rub yourself in small circles, hold four fingers together stiff as a board and swipe them back and forth over your vulva/clit. Go fast, go slow, explore a little and get a pocket mirror – create different stimulation points and techniques. We are all different, with 1 unifying factor- The Clitoris. If you think masturbation is nasty or gross, and don’t know how to at least create some good stimulation for yourself (no solo orgasm necessary) how can you let your partner know what to do?
2 commentsDear Jane: I Can’t Orgasm from Penetration – Am I Broken?
Dear Jane,
I have sex often and I enjoy it a lot but I’m never able to orgasm from just penetration. Is this normal? Is there something I can do to fix it?
I’d like to take a moment to say that I get asked this question weekly in my store. It must be due to misinformation, thinking pornography is a standard or from listening to their more orgasmically sensitive friends. How ever which way you’ve come to the conclusion that you are “abnormal” or someone who is “broken”, I need you to try your best in this situation to ignore these thoughts.
Truth is, women who can orgasm from penetration alone are in the minority group (30% to be more accurate). The other 70%, like yourself, require more stimulation to achieve orgasm.
I’m glad that even though you are in the same boat as many others, that you enjoy sex. Many women are very hard on themselves and feel incomplete…
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Make-Up Sex
Is it a good thing or bad thing to do after a fight?
7.5 times out of 10, it is a GREAT thing.
The first strike it gets is for couples who force fight, to force the make-up sex endorphins out. Which in the end, is a very unhealthy habit. The second strike it gets is because some people don’t know how to let go. When you’re fighting about everything, and nothing good is coming out of it (no lesson learned, nothing settled, no moving on)… sex is NOT the answer. It is time to let go. The last few points are taken away for frequency! Hopefully you’re NOT fighting often, in result making the make-up sex sessions few and far between!
2 commentsMilk Money Remake (NSFW)
Melanie Griffith and Ed Harris were in a cute 1994 film about three boys trying to venture into manhood and find the one spot you can touch on a woman to drive her crazy. After watching scrabbled porn, and thinking flash light orbs on their tree clubhouse looked like boobies…they saved their change, their “Milk Money“, ventured into the city (on bicycle). This quest led them to meet a prostitute, save some local wet lands, and find out that the one spot you could touch on a woman that would drive her crazy… was her heart.
If you haven’t seen the movie, I’m sorry for the spoiler but it is a cute movie to just watch.
Why did I start with that?
2 commentsLook Ma! No Hands!!
Welcome to another awesome discovery in sex: The Touch Free Orgasm!!
WE SHIT YOU NOT!! Now as Jane Blow the team, we really didn’t believe it either, UNTIL one member of our team (yea, sometimes we “kiss and tell”) accidentally did it. After much freaking out and saying “BUT I STILL HAD MY PANTS ON!”, (and several txts to each other) I decided to do a little research and find out how I managed to cream my panties while laying down and only THINKING about getting funky with myself.
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