Is it wrong for a straight guy wanting to experiment with anal stimualtion? And what would be the best way to do that?

Let me tell you a little story about one of your favorite Manly Men… Mr. James Bond. Actually, it is more of a statement… you see… despite all the women, Pussy Galore if you will… he was often considered Bisexual. Go ahead and google, I can wait for you to get past all the Daniel Craig stuff.  Sure it is a more Euro idea than an American one, but think about it.

If more men took a 007 standpoint, we wouldn’t be discussing if it was “normal” for you to want to explore your own body.  If James Bond, a famed man’s man can still be a man’s man while enjoying anal stimulation, so can you. There is nothing to be ashamed of. If you do it yourself, you’re exploring. If you do it with a woman, you enjoy the stimulation enough to share it with a partner. If you do it with another man, you might be queer. It depends on YOUR FEELINGS and who you’re attracted to, NOT what is being stimulated and that you enjoy the stimulation.

Common society will say it is “weird” but anyone educated even slightly in sexuality and sexual practices will shrug at you and say enjoy. They’d even tell you, like I’m going to, a few fun tips to get you started.

1. Take a shower, relax and get comfortable.

2. Use a lubed finger or anal safe toy, and rub it around your anus while you’re aroused. Slide your finger around, try swishing it back and forth, try different amounts of pressure and different parts of your finger (the tip vs the pad).

Water based lubricants work fine for this kind of stimulation, silicone is even better, there are even creamy lubes specifically made for anal play. Stay away from house hold products though, the sex industry has come a super long way and there isn’t any reason to keep using crisco or vaseline.

If you like the way a lubed finger feels, you’ll likely enjoy a partner licking you (aka rimming). If you’re curious to go further, and you’re relaxed and happy, keep going.

3. Try slowly inserting a finger or small anal toy. If you feel any pain, add more lube, go slower, and breathe to relax. If you are doing anal stimulation the right way, it’ll never hurt for you (or your partner when it is their turn).

4. Did outter stimulation? Tried plugs and toys? How about anal beads, they provide a completely different sensation.

5. Now curl your finger or nudge the toy upwards like you’re trying to find a G Spot, now you can play with your prostate.

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How do you like to have your asshole licked best?  Some people are grossed out but I have found a majority of women melt under this technique.  Also great foreplay for anal.

By George, this person has GOT IT!

Yes, analingus, rimming, tossing the salad, licking ass… is perfect foreplay, especially for anal sex.  It helps people relax, it somewhat of an intimate taboo place to put your tongue and is a very hot spot on many people’s bodies.  The poor sensitive ring of flesh is hidden tucked away by two spankable, biteable, grabbable globes and is just waiting to be touched; even if YOU think it is a “no no” spot.

Ass licking is definitely something to try thrice, I remember my first time being very…wet.  Weird.  My mind couldn’t quite let go into a pleasure zone so I pulled his head back up to my pussy and continued on.  But he was persistent and very good at manipulating my body, ultimately he won me over.

After making sure every one is clean (I showered and took care of myself), and a quick check to see if his nails are clean and mouth is fresh – no one needs pink eye or an infection… I like a few different positions.

Of course there is doggy, ass in the hair, face mashed in a pillow while he is back there licking – or me on my back and a pillow under my butt – even the laying down from behind, one leg tucked to my chest position.

Then there are the tongue strokes – I like variety, so what works one day might not work for me the next at times.  So try a long licking stroke, circles, a back and forth motion… incorporate your fingers, maybe a toy… don’t forget my clit and we can be friends.  Actually, what I like best is having fun.  If we both aren’t down for this, it isn’t fun at all.

I’ve had a partner go for an attempt just to see what it was all about, neither of us were excited about it, and the rimming was just plain awkward.  Not fun.  MUCH more fun when you are both down for it.

If you love it, go for it!  Show your partner how much fun it is, and how good it feels – and eventually they will come around to it.

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This is for all you anal connoisseurs out there!

Rim Job: The act of stimulating your partner’s sphincter with your tongue is called “rimming”. May also be known as “Analingus”.

For anal to be pleasurable for both participants you have to make sure that the muscles in the anus are relaxed, and giving rim jobs is an awesome way to do such.  It’s surprisingly awesome, and the tongue supplies an amount of pressure that is similar to a massage and can be very soothing.

I understand that this isn’t for everyone to try, but if you are interested in giving this a shot make sure everything is SUPER clean! Even give a flavored lube a try, there are a bunch of delicious brands and flavors.

A good way to give a quick test try Rimming: when your going down on your partner just over extend a lick down to their ass and see what they does.  If they stop you play it off as a mistake and if they like it keep going! You are taking the first step on the path to get some back door loving if they are holding out on you.

Good luck and happy licking on your lovers!

<3 Barbie

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