How can I try testing out ‘breath control’ stuff…?
Key Word: Control.
With any play involving control you need a safe signal, since you shouldn’t be able to talk much and if you aren’t bound, many people use a pinch or a quick three taps to stop the breath control if it is getting too intense for them. If you are bound, I recommend a cat ball toy with a bell in it; you can throw, or drop it to signal a stop. If you can talk, the universal ‘safe word’ is RED, but pick any other word that has nothing to do with sex and is VERY out of place. Saying “NO! STOP!” might be a good thing to say during play – so if you scream out PHONE, or KUMQUAT you’ll get your partner’s attention quicker.
Moving on!
Start by talking with your partner, if they are unaware of breath control fill them in on the science of orgasm and oxygen (ya know, blood carries oxygen to the brain; breath control stops that flow thus making you woozy, and orgasms come easier) and endorphins and being in danger and how they heighten sexual pleasure in the long run. You can also explain the control aspect, and what you like about it. If your partner is cool, then come out and say “hey, let’s try choking and breath control!”
If you are alone, asphyxiation is a pretty dangerous practice… its actually dangerous to begin with. Especially for beginners and extreme thrill seekers. Breath Play, Erotic Asphyxiation etc… can cause death if pushed too far (in the USA anywhere from 400-1000 have been reported per year). The crazy thing is the less oxygen you’re getting the better it feels and the more potent the orgasm. This feeling is addicting (some say similar to a drug addiction), and if you are always seeking the next big high, I would approach breath play with extreme caution. So please be careful, this is considered “Edge Play”… its “up there” with cutting for sexual satisfaction, and blood play (to name a couple of paraphilia).
OK. Warnings are over with… NEXT!
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