“You have to start at the bottom, not the other way around” she told you in conversation, and you’ve found yourself intrigued. It stuck in your head, why not try leaning BDSM skills from the ground up, it doesn’t make you any less of a man…right?
You’re at Her doorstep, how bad could it be? You straighten your clothes, a deep breath and ring the bell; first day of school. “C’mon in, how’re you? Ready to play with some rope today? Then learn how to adjust a bondage spanking horse?” She seems nice… in a predator posing as a houseplant kind of way.
She gets you comfortable, you’re learning different knots and wrap styles, you’re practicing on her after she ties you. First was a simple rope cuff on you a few times, and she shows you how to knot without being too tight; you flex in the bonds, feels weird. She made two loops for your wrists, wrapped them up your wrists, and the loose ends were woven back through to secure them. She tells you the importance of wrapping the center to make the bond so the subbie can’t get out.
You try to do the same, but it looks sloppy, she laughs and instructs by “chinning” at you to move stuff because she is bound. At least the second try looked better than the first. You don’t like the laughing too much, you’re having a good time but you can tell that little laugh could turn mocking. But you brush it off, thinking of how you could turn the tables on her… though She could probably hang you faster & tighter, so you go back to learning mode; over, under, tug, tighten… and ankle cuff wrap is much like the wrists. At least she let me tie myself, something about how trustworthy She is and how quick She is a little unsetteling. Now a chest harness.
She gets a mirror for this one, this way you can see behind you as she moves fluidly, practiced, and disciplined around you. The rope is tight, heavy, compressing but beautiful, you admit, she has skills to be learned. She first put the rope over your shoulders like a huge chain necklace and crossed the front so the loop was in the middle of your body. Walking around you she takes the ends and crosses them and pulls them through the front so that the harness is “on” you. She then weaves the rope to go over these same lines, making twists and knots to make it attractive. It seems to take forever and minutes at the same time. You love to watch her work, but you’re still not comfortable being bound, it smells weird, and why is it so tight? Wait did she go over or under that last knot?
As if on cue, “Pay attention, I’m only showing you twice, then you have to show me what you learned…” Fuuuck, you decide under, what is she going to do anyway?
She undoes the chest harness, your turn. “Don’t fuck up, I might make you pay for it so you’ll remember mistakes” she laughs. Oh, how, tie my thumbs together? Sure… Miss. You laugh inwardly, and hope she isn’t serious, how could you take her serious at her height, she is toss-able, how is she Dom? excuse you, Domme.
You’ve succeeded? You’re not sure, harness is on, it is sloppy, but she doesn’t approve or disapprove, just says “Do it again.” Well… that was cold, you clearly don’t like it and she knows it. On it goes, 3 more different wraps, corset bondage, and a half suspension. Back and forth, just a little laugh and “Do it again”. Then she has you try all the knots on her from the beginning wrist cuff. The rope feels good in your hands, and you surely have more confidence than when you first walked in.
You’re both glad and frustrated, “Well, you did ok for a beginner, but you often crossed over instead of under, and you must learn to work neater. Shibari isn’t just bondage, it should be beautiful. The time you spend getting them IN the bondage should add to your scene and help take your subbie into sub space. Next on agenda is the bondage spanking horse. It takes quite a bit of set up, but once a subbie is in it, there’s no squirming away from manipulations.”
Oh good! Finally, a machine to work, Men and machines always go together, you follow her into another room.
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