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Posted on Sep 01, 2010 — Dear Jane — No comments — Posted by JaneBlow

Dear Jane: Where Are The Single Women Who Enjoy Threesomes & What Positions Are Good For Threesome Sex?

Dear Jane,

These two were sent to me via facebook wall post after a discussion about my new KinkLab inventory turned into a double teaming incident. I love my life.

I’d really like to know
1) How do you go about meeting single women who are into it? I know they have bars/clubs geared towards swingers but I have no idea how to find those or which ones are good.

2) New and interesting positions/acts that all 3 can participate in other than the normal girl going down on girl while guy has sex with 1 (which is hot but I’d like a broader horizon of things to do lol)

1.  As far as meeting people it is location, location, location.  If swinger bars and clubs aren’t quite your thing, try gay bars and lesbian/bisexual nights.  Try going to GLBT friendly events.  Or even places YOU would hang out at this way you can find someone with similar interests too.  Then talk to people, talk to everyone, especially the women you are interested in.  See where it takes you.  Try complimenting them, and swing the conversation as the night progresses to sex, fantasies, then maybe group sex if you want to take a direct approach.  If not, become friends with this person but keep them at arm’s distance because you don’t want to fall into the “friend zone”.

As far as finding a good place to go where there are swingers, try websites that have rating systems for clubs and kink friendly events. Fetlife.com could help, Yelp.com could help and Craigslist.com could help if you ask to know where to go instead of hook up with someone.

2.  As for new and interesting positions… Continue reading this post →

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Posted on Aug 25, 2010 — Dear Jane / How To — 1 comment — Posted by JaneBlow

Dear Jane: How To Hair Pull?

Dear Jane,

My partner really likes their hair pulled, and I think I’m good at it.  Are there other ways? Better ways? I usually just tug on their hair, nothing special.  They tell me to do it harder though, is that a good or bad thing?

oOOooh hair pulling, one of my favorites!

If your partner has long hair, you could tug from the length of their hair by making your own “Pony Tail”, or grabbing their already done pony tail.  It is the quick way to make yourself some “reigns” and tug their head around or give them a little pain with pleasure.

I’ve found it is better to get your hands in there though, deep into their hair from the scalp.   Continue reading this post →

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Posted on Aug 19, 2010 — Dear Jane — 2 comments — Posted by JaneBlow

Dear Jane: How Does A Prostate Massage Work?

Dear Jane,

How does a proper prostate massage work?

The prostate is located a few inches into a man’s ass, it is easily found if he is laying on his back or side, or heck… on his knees when you place a finger inside his has and curl it towards his belly button.

He should be fairly aroused and warmed up with plenty of foreplay and rubbing his ass to “tell the body” something is going to happen to it, just like you would for a woman’s ass.  As the famous Tristan Taormino says “You can tell a lot from sticking your finger in someone’s ass,” and she is correct.  You will know immediately if you should slow down, if they are nervous and a slew of other emotions.

Your asshole doesn’t lie.

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Posted on Aug 11, 2010 — Dear Jane — No comments — Posted by JaneBlow

Dear Jane: How Do I Incorporate My Hands During A BJ?

Dear Jane,

Jane! I need some assistance. My guy and I have an awesome sex life and he’s amazing at everything he does. The sex lasts for hours, its daring, kinky, filthy (in the good/clean kind of way) and animalistic with a touch of D&S. Anyway, the thing is… Oral is fantastic he eats it better than anyone ever has and I love making love to his cock with my mouth. My problem is, that I suck at incorporating my hands. Never been one to give a hand job, and never use them when it comes to giving head.  My guy likes blow jobs, and I must keep him happy… but I suck at it. Any suggestions? HELP! I must keep my man satisfied since he makes it goal of his to do the same for me :)

The easiest way to incorporate your hands into the mix is to stroke his balls as if Sherlock Holms was “thinking” with his fingers on his chin.  As you pull your head up, slide your fingers up the sides of his balls, as your head goes down, move your hand down.  You can “warn” him that you’re going to try something new so he can concentrate on the feeling and not how you look a little spastic trying to coordinate your movements.  You’ll find a rhythm eventually with practice.

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Posted on Aug 04, 2010 — Dear Jane — 3 comments — Posted by JaneBlow

Dear Jane: What Are The Boundaries For Rough Sex?

Hey folks, sorry about the day off yesterday.  I had some catching up to do at the porn shop after filming the Ron Jeremy commercials the day before!  Check the twitter for pics and comments, I’m putting up the “interview” soon!

Dear Jane,

What are the boundaries for rough sex?  If its stated to be open, I like to really give it to my girl; make her gag when giving head, spank, slap, anything I like.  I’ve even had girls ask to be choked.  How else can I augment my experience (and hers)?

There is a fine line between rough sex and BDSM.  If you get hard at the thought of choking your partner (after her consent of course), and watching her face get red, her eyes roll back, and her pussy soak your cock… then try using props.  Your ‘rough sex’ fetish might run deeper than you think, plus it could be fun to Master a new tool in the bedroom.

First, make sure you have a safe word.  A word that no one would usually scream out in bed – like poodle, or kumquat. The universal safe word is RED; as in STOP IMMEDIATELY.  Some scenarios where a person is gagged or tied down require a anon verbal “safe word”. I like to use is a PINCH… or shaking/dropping a small bell in my hand.  Anything that is noticeable and out of place works as a signal.  With these signals in place, you will know the boundaries quickly.  Talking, communicating about hard limits also helps.

I’d pick a partner/fuck buddy who has the routine down, and pick up a spanking toy.  Spatula, ping pong paddle, or something made for impact play from a local sex shop or online bdsm shop.  Put her over your knee, and set up an old school spanking role play; teacher & student works well.  You can also say “you aren’t good enough for my hand, you’re just a whore, now you get THIS”.  See how you like using an instrument of torture while spanking, because you already love how her ass gets red for you.

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Posted on Jul 28, 2010 — Dear Jane — 1 comment — Posted by JaneBlow

Dear Jane: How Do You Like To Be Rimmed?

Dear Jane,

How do you like to have your asshole licked best?  Some people are grossed out but I have found a majority of women melt under this technique.  Also great foreplay for anal.

By George, this person has GOT IT!

Yes, analingus, rimming, tossing the salad, licking ass… is perfect foreplay, especially for anal sex.  It helps people relax, it somewhat of an intimate taboo place to put your tongue and is a very hot spot on many people’s bodies.  The poor sensitive ring of flesh is hidden tucked away by two spankable, biteable, grabbable globes and is just waiting to be touched; even if YOU think it is a “no no” spot.

Ass licking is definitely something to try thrice, I remember my first time being very…wet.  Weird.  My mind couldn’t quite let go into a pleasure zone so I pulled his head back up to my pussy and continued on.  But he was persistent and very good at manipulating my body, ultimately he won me over. Continue reading this post →

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Posted on Jul 21, 2010 — Dear Jane / How To — No comments — Posted by JaneBlow

Dear Jane: Will Anal Sex Make Me Crap the Bed?

Dear Jane,

I want to try anal, but am nervous because my husband has a lot of “girth” and it scares me.  What can I expect?  Are there any basics?  Will it make me feel as if I will crap the bed? Help.

Some of my favorite advice for anal sex, came from the Bend-Over Betty herself, Tristan Taormino.

Basics:

Anal sex for the weary is an all day process.  You’ll want to eat right that day so your body easily eliminates (you take a really good poop that day before sex).

Preparation can include:

Shaving your ass if you’re self conscious about hair, and giving yourself a cleansing enema.

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Posted on Jul 14, 2010 — Dear Jane — No comments — Posted by JaneBlow

Dear Jane: What is the Best Way to Eat Pussy?

Dear Jane,

What is the best way to eat pussy?

Since every woman is different, the BEST tips I can give you are the 10 basic norms that wont vary too much from woman to woman.

1.  Talk about it.  Ask her how she likes it, tell her you want to give her the best oral orgasms ever, at the very least she can give you hints while you’re going down on her.  A simple “yes.. yes.. there… like that” would help you greatly.

2.  Frequency and timing– if you find a speed, and movement that is working try not to vary or change it up – we like consistency just like you do.  Don’t half ass going down either, we need commitment- you need to work through jaw ache just like we do.

3.  Watch and listen – if your lady isn’t vocal or telling you exactly what to do – you will have to watch her body, and listen to her breathing and moans.  If her skin is getting flushed, her body is getting hot, nipples are hard, and is giving you a lot of “mmmmss” then keep going.  Subconsciously she could be giving you hints and encouragement.  If this isn’t working, hold her hand (she might squeeze it for when you’re in a good spot or she is close), or place your hand on her panty line– her muscles will flex as a reflex to good stimulation.

4.  Women who fake it are dumb and mean.  They are cheating themselves, and are usually blaming you for not being a mind reader.  The body never lies though.  So watch for sweat, muscles tightening etc…

5.  Most women don’t like a pool of spit under their butts, swallowing often helps keep the area lubricated but not sopping wet and uncomfortable – besides – who wants to sleep in the wet spot? Continue reading this post →

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Posted on Jul 09, 2010 — Dear Jane — No comments — Posted by JaneBlow

Jane Says: Surprising Your Partner is Good Pt3

We’ve covered igniting the spark again and why it could have gone out, and bringing home toys for beginners; part three is about introducing your partner to your kinky side.

You’re over the Anal sex hump, you both orally please one another, you have a fun sex life… but you’ve been hiding your foot fetish, or your want to be spanked, or love for puppy play, or to be choked, or to be tied down with in all kinds of rope and bondage gear.

How do you ask your partner to pee on you? Or tell them that you don’t want to be able to sit after you’ve been over their knee?

How do you introduce something kinky to your partner?

Truth is, there is no easy way.  I’ve previously told you how/when to bring up a topic… but what can you say? I can think of two ideas to help you.  Continue reading this post →

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Posted on Jul 07, 2010 — Dear Jane — No comments — Posted by JaneBlow

Dear Jane: Two Questions about Pubes

Dear Jane,

Since

How do girls like guys to trim pubis?

and

How do I convince a girl to shave her pubis? Cause I want me some taco pie!

are pretty closely related (possibly posted by the same person), I’ll daisy train them together.

First, you’ve seen my “how to” posts about hair right? ok moving on! Continue reading this post →

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